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Does anybody have experiences with sleeping more?

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Purity of Speech, Oct 16, 2017.

  1. Purity of Speech

    Purity of Speech Fapstronaut

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    i've just come to get some new hope with a number of challenges by being put on unrecognized sleep-deprivation as a cause. i sleep notoriously very little and pretty much look down on sleeping. i'm not even sure i can talk myself out of this. but if any of you have experiences how increasing sleep has helped you, i would be most interested and grateful...
     
  2. Iwannaquitplz

    Iwannaquitplz Fapstronaut

    It is hard to know where to start as it's a very broad question... how has sleep helped me?

    well once I was like you in the sense of sleep deprivation, I stayed up all night playing games and slept for a few hours if I was lucky. Even when i did lay down in bed, I struggled to even close my eyes because my brain kept thinking and making me do things (and usually this is my main reason for a relapse).
    In short, sleep helped me in every way you could ever think of... better social activity, better eating, better at nofap, a more positive outlook, more focused and a feeling of being more in control of my life.

    If you want some advice with how to sleep better, i'd start with waking up right... I know that sounds silly but it worked for me.
    I have 3 alarms, each are 15 minutes apart and the first one goes off at 8:15, it's heavy metal music and I leave my alarm at the other side of the room. First, I force myself to turn on the light, then I walk over to turn the alarm off and once I am out of bed, i clean my teeth, wash my face, put some pumpy workout music on and start my workout on my bedroom floor that just consists of like, pushups and stuff. After doing this, I found myself more tired at night which gradually set my bed time earlier and making my sleep come to me soon after laying my head down... If my brain does start going wild then I perform some meditation, then lay back down and try to sleep again.

    I know I didn't really answer your question properly but trust me, when you're sleeping better, your entire life will get so much better. Good sleep is just as important as good food!!!
    if you would like, I can go into specifics as for how sleep helps me in a day to day basis but I think life improvement is sufficient to at least try my waking up theory for a bit until you see the results for yourself and you can answer your own question.
     
  3. Purity of Speech

    Purity of Speech Fapstronaut

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    thanks a lot! i'm interested in exactly that kind of experience. i usually sleep well and wake up well as i have been sleeping little for many years. i'm also usually in a good mood and quite down to earth. sometimes i do the intensely physical morning routines but now i try to do some deep work studying instead [my physical routine took too long and too much willpower to leave enough for intense study]. i have several unwholesome patterns but one is that i fall into temptations when my willpower is used up, i still want to do more but it's just not in me. it's like a siren call away from that type of stress, if you know what i mean.
    what i'm interested in: how did more/better sleep help you with nofap? did it reduce temptation or make you better at resisting them? i'd be interested in all details of the process, if you don't mind sharing them. also: how much did you have to increase your sleep to get that effect?
     
  4. Iwannaquitplz

    Iwannaquitplz Fapstronaut

    Ok, I am not sure but maybe we have different experiences with sleep.
    For me, my lack of sleep/ good quality sleep effected my mood, my eating patterns, my work ethic, my exercise and so much more. Yes, more sleep make the temptations easier to resist for me but that's more due to having less boredom in bed as I just fall asleep instead.
    As soon as i get my sleeping pattern in check (probably takes a good week for me to be sleeping 100% after ruining my sleeping pattern) then I can feel the effects on every issue I was having (above).
    Sleep also helps me with keeping on track as I feel more in control of 'things' just from waking up early in the morning so i haven't wasted the day.
    An interesting point too is that I typically have around 8 hours of sleep every night and I find the time of going to sleep unimportant compared to making sure I have those 8 hours... perhaps it is the constancy of sleep which helps too. I do know people without sleep deprivation issues who have 5-6 hours sleep every night but are completely fine, maybe humans are good on 6 hours of sleep or maybe it's just making sure you keep to one amount of time. The two people go to bed around 11-12 and always wake up at 5:30 by the way.

    To finish off, yes I understand the siren analogy completely! Stress and boredom are my main triggers and that's why I like being organised and don't like to be wasting my time doing nothing. When my sleep gets mucked up, like I sleep through half the day, I often become annoyed/upset/frustrated and sort of lose control of my head (really don't know why). at times like these I usually forget nofap and relapse.

    To summarise my nofap story so far, I have just been playing with what actually makes me happy as an individual. I find organisation, being social, exercise and learning to be what makes me happy and I rely on these things to keep me away from PMO. Yes, I have relapsed a few times but it's only been when I am down or when I miss out on all my happy things. I have only been doing nofap for a few months but I find the more I get porn out of my days and nights, the more I discover my true self and the more I realise how important the little things like brushing my teeth or having an 8 hour nap can actually influence my mood for the day and the amount that siren in my head is going off.
     
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  5. Purity of Speech

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    thanks! that's helpful & sounds very reasonable as a way to recovery. i probably sleep around 4.5 hrs with napping (once or twice 3, 4 times a week) on most nights and feel perfectly fine. in fact, if it's more sleep, i dislike it because it tends to end in slightly nauseating, circular dream story telling, as though the mind doesn't know what to do with itself. it's then like that aweful feeling getting out of bed that many describe.
    but then i often collaps/crash once a week sleeping like 7, 8 hrs and if i get up before that, i just collaps on the next couch, carpet or whatever.
    i'm just describing this because it makes it difficult for me to conceive of a life with more sleep. the figures & formulas around just don't seem to fit my system very neatly. yet i have many symptoms described as 'sleep deprivation' and so it would appear to be worth trying something, even though i don't feel a desire or need.
     
  6. Iwannaquitplz

    Iwannaquitplz Fapstronaut

    maybe try it for a few weeks along with exercise before bed to tire you out. If not, you haven't lost anything and maybe you could turn around to your doctor, explain that sleeping doesn't help you and maybe they can think of another solution...
     
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  7. Purity of Speech

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    thanks, just failed yesterday... but then i a little over 2 hrs of sleep the night before. but other than the failure - which is perhaps the most important thing in my life! :) - i didn't notice any shortfall due to lack of sleep. couldn't even sleep all that much more today, when i intentionally didn't set an alarm. the extra time beyond 4 hrs or so just ends up being - admittedly rather pleasant - time in bed. this lounging, however, is what is usually advised against, and i'm inclined to agree.
     
  8. FriendlyCanadian

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    I find that when I have a great night of sleep then I am much more productive the next day, I feel better phsyically/emotionally/mentally. My doctor has prescribed me sleeping medication to help me with my sleep because I'm such a light sleeper I use to be able to go 1-2 days without sleeping. Now that I have been taking these meds for about 4 months now I have noticed a big positive difference in my sleep habits and overall mood each day.
     

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