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DO YOU WANT TO HEAR SOMETHING FUCKED UP?

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by STAR DUST, Nov 10, 2017.

  1. STAR DUST

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    I HAVE BEEN ON NOFAP ENCOURAGING YOU GUYS NOT TO FAP, AND MY WIFE JUST CONFESSED THAT SHE WATCHED PORN YESTERDAY MORNING. THAT BLEW ME AWAY BECAUSE SHE IS MAJORLY CONSERVATIVE AS IT RELATES TO SEX, AND NEVER WATCHES PORN. I HAVE STUGGLED WITH THIS AND TOLD HER THAT IT IS A VERY DARK PATH, AND NOT TO PLAY WITH FIRE. I AM SEXUALLY FREE AND WOULD BE WILLING TO OPEN UP OUR SEX LIVES IN CREATIVE WAYS. IT'S JUST THAT PORN IS SOOO DAMN POISONOUS! WTF!
     
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  2. HatePorn

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    Caps Lock broken?
     
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  3. STAR DUST

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  4. Kenzi

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    I think it's good to know that you are in a transparent relationship... Unless the conversation went somewhere like "I don't want to stop and I really enjoyed it I'm going to keep on keeping on" or she isn't aware of your journey... I don't know what is wrong here... But I can't judge as I've only seen you around a couple of times and this is the first time I heard u speak about your relationship
     
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  5. Jennica

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    I was never into porn but didn’t have much against it for a long time. When I would try to have conversations with my hubby about his porn use and that he never would talk about or share it with me I ended up increasingly curious, so I went looking to just see what he found so attractive about it. Of course this is before I knew about the depth of his use and the PA. It could have been along that thought line for your wife too.
     
  6. @STAR DUST, I think @Jennica is right! I wouldn't be so angry with my wife, but I'd be alarmed! A conversation between you two would be the best! Try to find why she needed to watch porn, if she liked it and then talk about how everyone can unintentionally slip in that, causing him or her a bad addiction!
    Set us (the PAs) as an example! We didn't start it with the purpose to get addicted and to hurt our wifes with PIED! We slowly got addicted to it!
     
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  7. STAR DUST

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    YEAH SHE IS MY QUEEN AND WE TALK ABOUT EVERY THING IM NOT MAD IT IS JUST VERY IRONIC. CAUGHT ME BY SURPRISE. I'M COOL WITH IT I HAVE BEEN IN AND OUT OF IT IT BEING PORN FOR YEARS, SO I DONT JUDGE AT ALL SO ITS NO BIG DEAL
     
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  8. STAR DUST

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  9. STAR DUST

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    I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN OPEN WITH MY GIRL ABOUT IT. IF SHE IS INTO IT ITS COOL WITH ME IF SHE IS NOT THAT IS COOL TOO. WE LOVE EACH OTHER UNCONDITIONALLY! IT ALL STARTED BECAUSE SHE WAS HIGH RISK PREGNANCY, AND SHE ACTUALLY SUGGESTED I WATCH ADULT ENTERTAINMENT. SHE IS A REAL CHICK, BUT I JUST DONT BELIEVE SHE KNOWS THE DARK SIDE OF THE PMO POTENTIALITY FOR ADDICTION.
     
  10. STAR DUST

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    WELL WE PRACTICE KAREZZA AND SHE HAD A LOT OF ENERGY BUILT UP THAT WE SHARED TOGETHER, HOWEVER UNFORTUNATELY I GOT STREP PARNGITIS RECENTLY AND HER ENERGY WAS RAISED TOO HIGH AND SHE NEEDED A RELEASE BECAUSE IF COULDN'T BE WITH HER AS I WAS CONTAGIOUS. BUT AGAIN IT IS OKAY NO BIG DEAL.
     
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  11. STAR DUST

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    NOT MAD JUST ALARMED AS IT IS SOMTHING I AM STRUGGLING WITH. DO YOU KNOW HOW HOT IT IS TO THINK OF YOUR WIFE WATCHING ADULT ENTERTAINMENT, I HAVE A GOOD PROBLEM I GUESS. IT COULD BE WORSE LOL
     
  12. STAR DUST

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    THAT IS OF COURSE UNLESS YOU FOUND PLEASURE IN IT AS SHE DID EXERCISING THAT PLEASURE. I WOULD BE HYPOCRITICAL TO TELL HER... WAIT DON'T DO THAT AFTER I HAVE DONE IT ON AND OFF FOR OVER A DECADE. WITH RESPECT TO YOU AS A FELLOW FEMALE FAPTRESSNAUT, I WANT US TO KEEP THOSE MOMENTS EXCLUSIVELY TO EACH OTHER BECAUSE PORN DESENSITIZES YOU TO TRUE INTIMATE BONDING. I LIKE PASSIONATE SPIRITUAL, SENSUAL BONDING FOR HOURS IF POSSIBLE, SHE JUST WANTS A WAM BAM THANK YOU MAM, AND TO BE DONE. SHE ISN'T INTO KAREZZA, AND THAT ALARMS ME BECAUSE OF THE PASSION CYCLE AS DESCRIBED IN THE ENLIGHTENING BOOK CUPIDS POISONED ARROW. OR MAYBE IM JUST OVERREACTING.
     
  13. Kenzi

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    Maybe try other things if she's looking for "spice"
    Like lotion play dates.
    Porn Does desensitize you.
    Have a open conversation with her about this.
     
  14. STAR DUST

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    I THINK SHE ENJOYED IT. IT WOULD BE A SHAME FOR ME TO PUT DOWN PORN ALL IN EXCHANGE FOR HER PICKING IT UP. TO BE HONEST I AM GLAD THAT YOU GUYS CHIMED IN, BECAUSE THIS WOULD ONLY MAKE SENSE TO ME COMING FROM A FEMALES PERSPECTIVE. THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT MAKING IT SO THAT WE CANT SEE YOUR GUYS POST, AND IT WILL ONLY BE FAIR THAT OURS ARE PRIVATE TO ONLY MEN AND THEY ARE COMPLETELY SEPARATING MEN FROM WOMEN ON NOFAP WHAT A TRAGEDY, BECAUSE THIS ISSUE IS REALLY HELPED WITH SOME ESTROGEN IN THE MIX!
     
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  16. STAR DUST

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    SHE ENJOYED HER EXPORATION. LETS JUST SAY THAT. THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT MAKING IT SO THAT WE CANT SEE YOUR GUYS POST, AND IT WILL ONLY BE FAIR THAT OURS ARE PRIVATE TO ONLY MEN AND THEY ARE COMPLETELY SEPARATING MEN FROM WOMEN ON NOFAP WHAT A TRAGEDY, BECAUSE THIS ISSUE IS REALLY HELPED WITH SOME ESTROGEN IN THE MIX!
     
  17. STAR DUST

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  18. Kenzi

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    I think it's only in "women in reboot"
    I don't think it makes sense to cut the PAs off from the SOs.
     
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  19. STAR DUST

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    IN DEED, THIS OPPORTUNITY ALLOWS US TO SEE THE PAIN THAT WE HAVE INFLICTED HEAD ON. OUR TIME HERE MAY BE SHORT, SO IN ADVANCE FAREWELL, AND MAKE THE BEST OF LIFE'S COCOONS. THANK YOU.
     
  20. STAR DUST

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    DON'T KNOW BUT AS SAID NO BIG DEAL, AT LEAST I HOPE NOT.
     

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