Do you think this girl likes me, and what should my next move be? Need help!!

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by superstorm250, Jul 12, 2017.

  1. superstorm250

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    Yeah she's still on my mind because like I said in a previous reply, I'm never around girls my age and haven't been around any on a regular basis since high school, which was 5 years ago. That's why I think she's still on my mind, and that texting conversation ended 2 weeks ago and we haven't talked at all since then. I wanted to wait until that blew over before contacting her again, but now I'm wondering if I waited too long and that any opportunity that I had is now completely gone.
     
  2. Al123

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    You can easily ask her to talk in privacy. It's not rude at all to just ask if only you and her can talk
     
  3. Numbanddisturbed72

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    Trying again wont hurt. Give it a go :) Just ask if she wants to meet for a coffee or something. Even if she says no, it's a learning experience to grow from. Im a girl...a few months ago i told a guy i liked straight-up that i was interested in him and he shot me down and friendzoned me (lol). It was kinda embarrassing for sure but hey, i put myself out there and felt good about that small bit of courage i had.
     
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  4. A nu start

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    It's done. Move on.

    You admitted yourself that the reason she is still on your mind is because you don't see girls your age often. The solution is to start spending time with girls your age. You would probably feel this way about any girl your age you spend 2 days with.

    You can ask her out, you will get rejected, but at the end of the day it matters as much as you let it. If you're meeting new girls regularly you wouldn't care at all how that text convo went.
     
  5. superstorm250

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    Yeah I've thought of that myself and that's really the only way its possible. I still don't know what to do about the porn-induced ED though, I don't think either of us would want to wait 3 months to have sex.
     
  6. superstorm250

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    That's easier said than done because like I previously said, I haven't been around girls my age on a regular basis since high school 5 years ago, except for the summer job where I met this girl. I have found no way to start being around girls my own age on a regular basis more often in the 5 years since then. And your assumption about me feeling that way about any girl that I spend a couple days with is wrong, I worked with a girl about the same age as me for a few months earlier this year and never felt that way about her the whole time. Just curious though, what made you come to the conclusion that its done with this girl? Is it because of how the text convo went and because I haven't contacted her at all in the 2 weeks since then?
     
  7. superstorm250

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    You see, this is why I'm conflicted. You say to go for it and still try, and then the person who replied after you said that its done and that I should move on. There's no consensus opinion on this and that's why I think I haven't contacted her again in the 2 weeks since that text convo, because of all the differing opinions.
     
  8. Al123

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    3 months isn't a long time. Personally I'd only want sex after maybe 6 months minimum. Just tell her (if the relationship does happen) that you want to take things slow.

    Ignore the guy that said it's over. I think it's a good thing you've waited 2 weeks after some awkward texting (no offence :p ) because now all you can say 'do you want to go out?' Dude just take a shot of tequila or something and JUST DO IT!
     
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  9. Numbanddisturbed72

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    Well despite all our opinions on this thread, at the end of the day it is your decision to make. The differing opinions makes it difficult, but sometimes you just need to forget other peoples opinions and do what you feel is best for you. Id rather get a "no" to my face than sit around for months wondering "what if". Anyway, you could always look into getting another job where youd be surrounded by more people your age...thats what im trying to do :)
     
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  10. A nu start

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    Yeah mostly based off the text convo.. If a girl is interested in a guy they generally make it pretty obvious and drop 'hints'. Example - "I'm going to be so bored this weekend" (hoping you will then ask her out). I think you have waited too long, I said in an earlier post that you should have asked her out in your very first message - Eg "nice spending time with you at work blah blah blah, was just wondering if you wanna do something this weekend?"

    Not trying to be an asshole but she has probably met a few or guys in the last couple weeks or has her eye on someone, etc. That's why you needed to ask her out ASAP - while you are still fresh in her mind. Women, unlike men, often have many people chasing them and wanting to spend time with them.. Even if she had a really great time with you and enjoyed your company, girls forget about that within a matter of days. Right now you are just that guy she worked with a few weeks ago.

    You've learned a good lesson from this. If you are really interested in a girl, you don't hesitate. Bite the bullet and make your move. Sitting on the thought for weeks is a recipe for failure. Women want a man to take charge, not to withhold their feelings because they're scared of being rejected.
     
  11. Gotham Outlaw

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    Just ask her out. The self rejection you'll go through from doing nothing is worse than anything she could say.
     
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  12. The Consigliere

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    Exactly. It sucks.
     
  13. phwrancesco

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    you should absolutely bang her!
     
  14. Pmo is in the past

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    When you see her again, just ask let's do something this week.
     
  15. Drew140

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    If you like the girl ask her out
     
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  16. quiescence

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    You sound like me years ago. I feel for you.

    You did blow a chance with your friend zone texting, but it's not over. Experience shows that girls "reset" after about 3 weeks of no communication.

    But next time you communicate with her, stay away from "friend" conversations.

    You need to demonstrate that you have value to offer her as a man, value that her friends and girlfriends can't compete with:

    You can turn her on, you can make her feel feminine, you can add fun and variety to her life, you can make her feel romantic.

    Line up some fun things to do, some fun party, for example. Mention it next time you talk to her and, if she sounds interested, casually invite her to join you.

    Keep things causal but flirty. Make sure you convey you're a man who likes girls. You're not interested in being a girl's buddy.

    A great way to start a text conversation with a woman you haven't communicated with for a while is, out of the blue, to send the following text: Hey nerd

    Don't ask me why it works, but it does.

    From there, keep things light and flirty. Demonstrate value, be non-needy, mention cool things you're up to. Make her feel that your life is something she'd enjoy being a part of. And then invite her to do something fun you're going to be doing anyway.

    If she doesn't want to join you, text her photos later of you having a blast at the event. Make her feel like she missed out.

    Attracting women initially is much like sales: You have to create desire or they're not going to want to buy.

    Good luck!
     
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  17. Might Guy

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    Just see it this way: What exactly is it u have to loose? I mean if u dont ask her out, u wont meet again and the chances of u getting together is 0, right? If u ask her out there is a slight chance she might say yes: In fact the way you described the situation there might be in fact a very good chance.
    Even if she says no, u dont actually lose anything u know? Its as if nothing happened with the difference that u dont have to think about her anymore as u know that she isnt interested in you. So as times goes on u would eventually move on. Man grab your phone, call her, ask her out, get rejected or get lucky.
    When you wrote your text you didnt actually need any advice. You needed courage that u would get by people saying such things as: She likes you, She shows the signs yada yada yada.
    Deep down u know exactly what to do. Do it and good luck with it ;)
     
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