Discovering sexuality for long term effects of quitting porn. Homosexuality?

Maybe you are just bisexual mate. And you are attracted to beautiful people of both genders but just prefer wamen for a relationship.
Or you are scared of society and what happens to the people around you when they find out that you are sleeping with both and currently in a relationship with a man.
Our brain is a tricky beast.

 

Check out the group "Confused Sexualities". Read some posts or make your own. You may find some help from there. I would also consider seeing a therapist about this. Many men who grow up with certain ideas of masculinity and sexuality then have trouble accepting it in themselves. It's really alright to be to be or straight. I hope you figure it out

 

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Hey so I'm relatively new to this website and on my journey, but I felt like I could relate. Everyone (obviously) is different, so my experience isn't going to be like yours. Well when I was in the 7th grade or so, this all started when I searched on Google the word 'penis' and I just really liked knowing more information about it and especially how it looked. From there it progressed to other things like searching "man on man action" and I don't know. Even if there was a woman on a screen or in person, I've never understood the appeal of a woman. But at the same time, I never even considered that I would like males. I grew up fairly religious, so it wasn't an option. Sexuality is a complicated thing because there are three different types of attraction: physical (whether someone is cute or not), emotional (whether someone connects with you emotionally) and lastly sexual (self-explanatory).

So while I didn't even think of a man as cute or couldn't even picture myself with another man, there was always an inherent attraction to men's genitalia. It sounds silly but I would search on Yahoo Answers to see if liking gay porn made me gay and someone wrote that because I was young, that my body is flushed with hormones so I'll grow out of it.

One day, I came to the conclusion that I was at least bisexual which for a lot of people is a stepping stone to come out. It's easier to say that "I'm only half different" than "I am 100% different". It was a weird mix of emotions, ya know? There was the religious aspect, the family aspect, the society aspect, etc. But one day I decided silently to myself that I would TRY and see if I liked men for real. So as I went to school, I would allow myself to be gay, because I never allowed myself to. All of those things held me back. I allowed myself to try and think of a man as attractive. And quite honestly, I think men are beautiful creatures. Something about their voices, their chests, their arms, etc. I allowed myself to be straight for so long, but I never felt so satisfied as allowing myself to be fond of men.

I remember one day watching Desperate Housewives, and there was a scene where Gabriela (a very pretty Eva Longoria) had lingerie on where she was going to seduce her husband. To the average straight male, she would be what would be considered 'hot' but wow, he just looked so good. There's nothing like a hug from a man.

It is not in any way, easy to be gay. But it is satisfying to be who you are and not have to fake anything. What's important is that you are happy. I do not know, but I think that you cannot be satisfied if your brain and your body are not in sync. It's very cliche to say "it's okay to be gay" but it is. Sometimes we need to allow ourselves to try. Try it. Maybe you'll be happier.

There's always that idea that there's a man and a woman and kids, but that's not for everyone. Maybe you have these things that you want, like expectations in your brain that do not allow you to have these feelings. It is possible, but it's only if you actually allow yourself to feel it. Insecurities and fear will never allow you to, but try being brave (if you want).

Maybe the way you view gays is the reason you do not want to be gay. No one decides "oh let me like dick and act this way" But for sure, nothing else feels like freedom, like liberty. Who cares what anyone else thinks if I am happy? Your happiness matters more than people's thoughts.

As a child, we are more free than we are as adults. It's a more raw, real version of ourselves because what we feel as an adult carries all of this extra weight, how will my ____ react? and all of these complications. Allow yourself to try. If you don't like it, that's fine. Feel free to message me, if you want.

 

Yeah, it's totally fine to be gay. There's nothing wrong with it. If it's who you are then you should explore that part of yourself. It will bring you great happiness, joy, and awesome relationships.

However, it is important to note that PMO really really alters your sense of attraction and desire. Less than a year ago, I was 100% sure I was bi and 98% sure I was trans/queer. After a reboot to clear my mind, I am now certain that all those thoughts are all porn-induced. And I say this as a person with close friends who are homosexual. There are even queer and gay people on this site who can see how negatively porn can affect the desires of people of all orientations and sexualities. Before making any judgements or decisions about yourself, do a complete reboot first. It is the best and only way.