Did you take a gap year before college?

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  1. Demure_Dreamer

    Demure_Dreamer Fapstronaut

    If so, what did you do during that? Did you learn a new skill or traveled anywhere?
     
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  2. Yep u do

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    I played to lol - -
     
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  3. Castielle

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    I didn't, but I think it's probably a good idea for most people. The whole institution of college is kind of insane. We allow an 18 year old kid who likely has no idea what their doing with their life rack up thousands and thousands of dollars of debt to get a degree they might not even use, since they might not even know what they want to do yet. It seems pretty crazy when you think about it.

    I feel like more often than not, people aren't really ready for college when they start it. I, for one, thought I wanted to be a marriage and family therapist, and was pursuing a degree in psychology with plans to continue on toward my MFT and PHD. But after two years of studying psychology (and just getting to know myself better) I realized that I don't think I have the right personality for therapy, as much as I find psychology fascinating. I could have gone into research instead, but when I got married during the summer after my second year, I decided to take the fall semester off to sort of enjoy married life for a bit and adjust to that. I never ended up going back to college.

    I don't regret going to college, at all. I loved every second of it, and I actually miss it. I really like learning, and if I had the money and time, I think I would probably always be in some kind of school, taking some classes here and there. But when it comes down to it, I spent two years and my parents spent a lot of money for me to get no degree to show for it, because I didn't know myself well enough to know what I wanted to do with my life back then. And I honestly really thought I did. I've always been pretty mature for my age, compared to my peers, and I was never a slacker or anything. But therapy just wasn't for me, and maybe a gap year could have allowed me to figure that out before.
     
  4. Infrasapiens

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    I didn't, here if you want to become a professional you should do it as fast as you can.
     
  5. SilentJay313

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    I unintentionally did due to the fact that I had no job at the time and was looking for one. Spent a lot of that time just looking for a job, reading and fixing computers. It was 2008-2009, so I'm sure everyone could imagine how difficult it was to get a job around then. I didn't get into a community college until 2010 after a lot of arguing with my parents about how I needed their tax information to apply for financial aid.
     
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  6. spaces

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    I went to college and got held back due to lack of attendance , I freaked out in college and stopped attending classes. i waited for a year for the next batch to start , during that time i saw P , more P some times less P,.
     
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  7. I guess all that comes from US of A point of view!

    Here in EU, teens are more independent, not surveyed and catered that much as in USA! Kids here have more responsibilities, travel to school mostly alone with the public transport and have time alone which they must distribute themselves rationally between homeworks, leisure and going out!

    Assuming this, there is no wonder that 18 y/o american spoiled brats behave like unchained beasts the minute they leave home!

    "Gap year" in Europe is a rarity!
     
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  8. EXPONENTIALLY

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    I took one AFTER it lol. And it was not college but rather a highschool displaying an associate's degree which I got. But just next to it was a college. Now I'm currently a content wage slave working on the projects...
     
  9. RicardoL

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    I did. i got my drivers license and did a 6 mth internship. so when i got my diploma i have 5 mths job experience while my classmates had none lol
     
  10. Castielle

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    Wow. You sound like an ass. I'm not a spoiled brat, thank you very much. Keep your ridiculous judgements to yourself.
     
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  11. I NEVER mentioned you personally, but you take it so personally - why? Your overreaction is probably because you saw yourself in the situation i described, isn't it? :D

    You didn't even try to refute my analysis, but started calling me names and explaining yourself like an unruly kid caught in mischievous act. :D
    That's really mature indeed! :D *sarcasm*

    On the subject:
    Responsibility takes a lot of time to build and cannot be developed (or imposed) overnight when one turns 18 (or 21 in US of A)!
     
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  12. Castielle

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    Because I'm an American, and you're talking shit about Americans. It's pretty simple. You can't generalize and entire country in a really negative light and then be surprised when someone from that country gets offended.

    Not in the slightest. I didn't "refute your statement" because it was an idiotic statement, and I owe you nothing. I don't have to explain myself to you. You're just being extremely mean, and it's not a good look. Why do people feel the need to tear others down to feel good about themsleves? I will never understand that. You seem so proud of yourself for saying something mean and hurtful. That's really messed up. Even if I was being immature -- which I'm not -- at least I'm being kind and trying to provide helpful advice, not coming in here talking crap about people I don't even know, to make people feel bad so I can feel better about myself. That's also super mature, indeed.
     
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  13. brilliantidiot

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    So all 25 million American kids are jerks?
    Every single "European Union" kid is mature?

    Sure.

    Why do you think this?
     
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  14. brilliantidiot

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    Our eduction system may be screwed but at least we don't yet get put in jail for "offensive" facebook posts!
     
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    Hello,

    This is a kind request to stay on topic and to respect each other's points of view during the discussions.

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  16. Oh, i touched the nationalistic string - it wasn't my intention, i just wanted to show the truth!
    ...you are unable to!
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    Instead you resorted to nationalistic rant and personal attacks! With vigour!
    At least you owe me a little basic respect as i do to you even now! It is really funny to call me "mean" after all this! :D You didn't refute my thesis, didn't present a counter-argument but call me names! You think your arrogance is strength, but you are wrong - it shows your weakness!

    So, I guess you feel good now! :D
    Oh, really?!
    Are you trying to say that your behaviour was "mature" and "kind"?!
    It seems quite the opposite!

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    You say this, not me!
    I explained that already good enough!
    If you have any particular questions - just ask, or follow my thoughts which i already expressed! :)
    I don't know what does that have to do with the subject at hand!
     
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  17. brilliantidiot

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    Thats literally what you just said


     
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  18. brilliantidiot

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    Thanks. My particular question is why did you say that all american kids are "spoiled brats that behave like unchained beasts".
     
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  19. Infrasapiens

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    Really? I always thought you were british for some reason.

    The More You Know.
     
  20. zig

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    hahaha, now this is funny. The entire premise of arguement -- and all the cute little quotes you've brandished alongside it -- is based on a statistically inaccurate statement you've made.

    "Recent statistics from UCAS show that over 5% of accepted university applicants in the UK deferred admission for one year in 2012. Statistics in the USA pale in comparison, where an estimated 1.2% of first-time college freshmen deferred admission in 2011 to take a gap year, according to the Higher Education Research Institute."

    "Although a gap year is a new concept to Americans, it's an established tradition for students in the United Kingdom, Australia, and New Zealand. In the UK and Australia, about 11% of students take a gap year"
    [source I] [source II]

    So by your very own standards of maturity and independence, it would seem that Americans have quite the upper hand, don't they? ;) Or maybe this is just slightly more nuanced than you're making it out to be.
     
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