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Delayed Ejaculation because of Death Grip? (Sorry for the length)

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by R2R (Road To Recovery), Nov 19, 2017.

  1. R2R (Road To Recovery)

    R2R (Road To Recovery) Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys,

    So I guess I should start with the beginning? I started to M, when I was about 12, I am 19 now. I never went out of control with how many times a day or a week, the most in a day for me I think was three, but I talked to friends, and they all said about the same thing. I thought it was normal to just do it whenever. Especially during puberty. But as I got older, and got through high school, that stayed consistent, I would M 4-5 times a week, always to P. I had a few girlfriends, but never really did anything other than kissing and touching til I was 17. I met a girl in class, and we hit it off pretty quickly, we went on dates, kissed, and then finally we talked about having sex. I was nervous, but excited, and when they day came I was ready. Nothing really seemed that foreign to me, because of the amount of P that I had watched. But it lasted about 45 minutes. From stories I heard, guys' first times never lasted that long, but I never really thought about it. Then I moved out of my house, into my own house with two roommates. We threw parties, all of the time, so there were always girls in the house. I had a few one night stands, but again I could never ejaculate. Then I had a FWB for a while, we would sleep together 3-4 times a week, and I could never ejaculate. Sometimes, I could "Pretend" like I could, so she never really thought anything of it, she thought I did every time I guess. But I still M to P almost everyday. So now I am in a LDR (long distance relationship). And I REALLY REALLY like her. We didn't have sex before I moved, so my DE wasn't even on my mind. But a couple weeks ago I visited her, and naturally things happened, and we both wanted to do it. The first time we did it was in a movie theater, and I did not ejaculate. But I kinda just played it off cause it was in a public place (even though no one was there). SO we tried the next day. And again... nothing. All of the guys she has been with have kind of told her that "Blue balls hurt" or "sex is dumb if I don't cum". So she got really sad that I did not finish for her. I don't want her to think that she isn't enough, because she IS. I do not want this to ruin everything... I have already started not to M. When I got back from my trip, I did a couple times with a condom on. but since then its been three days since I have. I'm visiting her again in two weeks. SO I want to stay strong, and stay away from it until then. You think NoFap will help with this?
     
  2. Certainly helped me. But it can take a little time for your brain to rewire.

    Also, there is the pressure in your head from wanting to make her happy, and wanting to come. If you're comfortable, tell her about it, tell her what you'e doing about it, and have sex with no pressure to come. It should eventually work itself out. In my case things were noticeably better within weeks (higher chance of ejaculation but still took some time) and basically what I would consider normal within a few months.

    Best of luck!
     
  3. R2R (Road To Recovery)

    R2R (Road To Recovery) Fapstronaut

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    Thanks man! Glad you had success. We shall see in a couple weeks if there is much of a difference. I talked to her about it, and she's much more comfortable knowing whats going on. Good decision to have open communication about whats going on. Glad I'm on track now though.
     

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