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Dealing with temptation

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Daitenshi, Apr 23, 2014.

  1. Daitenshi

    Daitenshi Fapstronaut

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    I have noticed various temptations throughout my day to day life. Some I can control, some I cant. I know how to deal with controllable temptations but not how to deal with the uncontrollable. For example, being around an incredibly attractive female friend. She cant help being attractive, I cant help being attracted to her, since we are friends I cant avoid her. This is just one of the many uncontrollable temptations out there and I'd like to know...

    How do you guys deal with temptation?
     
  2. StarKing

    StarKing Guest

    I can relate to this. I work in an all female office and am going crazy with temptations. but dude if you have an incredibly attractive female friend you hang out with ,then you should definitely be holding off on the fapping. why? because 1. you will attract her sexually and 2. she will be more attracted to you sexually. nuff said. but if that isn't an option then cold showers will help with the temptation
     
  3. Daitenshi

    Daitenshi Fapstronaut

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    Those are some very good points you have raised, and some good advice too!
     
  4. Thomas

    Thomas Fapstronaut

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    In my opinion there is temptations and obsessions. Temptations happens all the time, I am a student and I can relate to this, but you deal with an obsession when the temptations leads you to P or M Which are not the temptation... Real sex is not the obsession, PMO is. You can work the obsession with the temptation. For example, I draw/paint erotic scenes when I have craves so I don't flee the temptation but try to somehow get to the bottom of it. I just mean that it can be anything, but it's possible to deal with this in many ways.
     
  5. Basic Plains

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    I wouldn't say attraction to an attractive female is a temptation. your allowed to notice when a girl is attractive but its when you start to dwell on the "other things" that makes it a temptation. I don't have much advice other than try and view her like she's your sister. I'm sorry if I'm not much help.
     
  6. Daitenshi

    Daitenshi Fapstronaut

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    No it helps :) thats a good point! For me, usually when I notice an attractive girl it kinda stops there, I don't dwell on it. Its when I've gone a little while without PMO and I notice an attractive girl that I get those thoughts.
     
  7. Thomas

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    I have a girlfriend and deal with temptation/attraction with PMO and other women around and I came out with this funny metaphor that translates quite well how I feel about all this and she pretty much agrees with it herself. That is, I am a monk in a dense green forest, every women, but my wife, is a tree in the woods. It is more than a privilege but a duty to admire and contemplate the nature. But how come someone would have desires and intimate relations with trees...
     
  8. salvage

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    Yeah that example with the trees is great, I don't think anyone can get intimate with a tree. It seems like a good analogy, the key is to keep our minds in things that have nothing to do with PMO, or a potential trigger while redefining how we see women.
     

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