Day 86- super horny

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by fellowBrother, Jul 28, 2019.

  1. fellowBrother

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    So I went through a flatline period from day 30ish till day 70 ish. Now i'm at day 86 and I feel like I did before the flatline, but worse. I have an overwhelming urge to have sex. Not masturbate, or watch porn, just have a one night stand. Over the last 3 days I've been on tinder, facebook, instagram, literally searching for girls to meet up with. I would honestly rather be in flatline than be like this. Any advice??

    Also, for those who are recovered, when does the horniness go away so that you can control it and not always be super desperate?
     
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  2. Depressed&Out

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    You say you're horny and wanting sex, as opposed to AI sexual stimulation, and yet you've spent time over the last three days looking at images of women on the internet with sexual thoughts??


    Yeah, good luck with that one! I think you need to take more time to understand what this whole PIED is all about.
     
  3. fellowBrother

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    I don't get out much during these breaks from school. My job is in a cubical for 8 hours. I really don't have a choice. I did approach 3 women last week and got 2 numbers. I hung out with one last night. But like I said, I just felt horny and desperate for sex. The difference between now and when I was deep in PMO is I never had to motivation to meet any girls at all. I would just fap
     
  4. Are you horny or borred? Differentiate it
     
  5. DeepParkWater

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    I know exactly what you mean. Im further away fomly at day 11 but i got out of a LTR several months ago and i started using dating apps too. Honestly all the thots on tinder esp make urges pretty tough but i dont have the desire to MO to artificial stimulation either.
    How old are you? Im 29 and honestly if youre pretty young i think its pretty normal to want to sleep with women if you are a physically healthy male with a decent amount of testosterone. Personally I want to go the full 90 days badly but I personally think that sleeping with a woman isnt a bad thing. Everyones goals are different but i expect that being PMO free is different for everyone. I see it as a lifelong decision, meaning that unless you want to be asexual forever rejecting the instinct to fuck at a certain level is going against your natural preprogrammed instinct. I would say that the best way to go about this though is try to think what type of sex would be counterproductive to a healthy sex life though. I may be trying to justify my.own urges but i feel like a lifelong battle shouldnt have to mean killing your own libido entirely. Be responsible about it of course. Retraining the brain from what ive read seems like a longer process than 3 months.
     
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    I feel the same way. I'm 23 and I think being horny is normal but I've just been doing some crazy stuff I dont usually do like message random girls on social media. When I was fapping I would have never done that. I just want to have control over it so I dont come off desperate.
     
  7. DeepParkWater

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    Oh dude if youre 23 then youre nearing the peak of yoyr T levels this is completely normal. Youre supposed to want to sleep with women. Id say if youre feeling these urges and youre seeking out sex in a healthy and controlled manner through safe concentual sex versus risky behaviors then youre in a healthy place.
    I might be trying to justify things but honestly at your age your neuroplasticity should still be relatively high. Seek out meaningful relationships if you end up in a healthy relationship then you won. If you go on a fucking spree and immediately crave porn then you may need to back off but dont give up oppourtunities in your life out of fear, control them
     
  8. fellowBrother

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    Nah I dont crave porn at all. Just real women. I crave a connection and good sex. But I agree finding a woman through normal terms and making her wifey material is the ultimate goal. I will take that over anything
     
  9. DeepParkWater

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    We're in agreement on that. I would say as a forewarning if you havent fucked in a while you might drown in the pussy. Dont get stuck in a relationship trying to make someone give you something they can't. This is less PA and more of just general talk but ive seen some.of my friends try to wife up hoes and get ruin their lives after drowning in the pussy
     
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  10. fellowBrother

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    That's great advice boss. I know a ho when I see one. Can't get stuck on one or that's it. Preciate it
     

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