Day 50 and PIED: no improvements so far...

Discussion in 'Porn-Induced Sexual Dysfunctions' started by Dax25, Mar 15, 2019.

  1. Dax25

    Dax25 New Fapstronaut

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    I'm writing this post because right now it's very difficult to me to find motivation to go ahead. As you read from the title, I've been in NoFap for 50 days now and this is my best streak ever. I have a GF and needless to say that I started this journey because i discovered I suffered from what I believe to be PIED. So, i haven't actually PMOed for 50 days now but I have to say that I haven't been perfect. Sometimes I pretty much indulge on sexy pictures on Insta, sometimes I edge a bit (more or less once a week and for 10-20 minutes)... I know I shouldn't, guys. But the fact is that I noticed almost no progress with my GF. Let me explain that: in the last three weeks I was able to have sex with her 9 times out of 11 attempts. I can say that not masturbating helped me being able to get erected a bit more that I used to. And you could say this is not bad. The point is that I keep lasting less than 2 minutes and, moreover, it seems like I need 2-3 days to recover and to get a proper erection again. Not to mention that I noticed that my erection is most of the times weak (except from the first 2-3 times after quitting sex during her "period" week). So... I read lots on this forum about significant improvements, superpowers, life-changing progress... I have to say I'm quite disappointed. So disappointed that today I almost relapsed. I started sexting a bit but managed to quit after 20 minutes. I feel like I don't want to waste my 50 days streak but... I need advice guys... Is there something else that I could try doing? I have never flatlined so far but in the last days I feel so depressed...
     
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  2. MarinoBigFan1984

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    The edging is very counterproductive. Just leave your dick alone and let yourself heal for real.
     
  3. ReclaimedLife

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    You aren't really doing nofap if you still look at porn subs and edge to them.

    Nofap means no visual aid and technically you aren't even supposed to touch yourself at all.
    The point is that you brain can't rewire if you are still feeding it some kind of porn-like input.

    That also goes for regular movies with really good looking partially naked girls in there, facebook, instagram, literally everything that isn't a real life wamen you can interact with. In your case, it means your girlfriend.

    In my eyes, you aren't at 50 days. You are at day X after the last time you were edging to pictures.
     
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  4. Warthog

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    Yeah I did the same thing as you for a long time. The only thing for PIED is to stop edging and looking at any pics. I promise that you will get improvement if you are strict with yourself
     
  5. Wolfen

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    Hey man,for first remember,never surrender and of course it needs time! Then,edging,is reaaally bad for you. I noticed it on myself too and increase Pied,atleast for me. Because you play on the edge,you're doing it,but half of you don't want to do. Change your life,talk with your girlfriend,we're not animals and at the same time we're not gods,we can make mistakes. Support yourself and be patient
     
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  6. HopeForTheFuture

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    I hope I ain't being too harsh here but it sounds like you are just fooling yourself about not saying you were NOT PMOing. I guess you ticked yourself in believing it and carried on the days thinking it did not count towards PMOing and as a result you didn't see the results you wanted. Hope you decide to cut out it all out and start again strong. I hope to see a post in the near future with great success from you. Sorry again for sounding a bit upfront about it but maybe it will help push you in the right direction.
     
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  7. RollerCoaster

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    I guess you are in a flatline though...
     
  8. Reboot16

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    Here's the deal dude, as you need some tough love. :)

    If you're looking at pictures, you're feeding the beast. If you're looking at anything besides an actual naked girl in bed, you're feeding the beast. You're not on your way to improving. You have to stop EVERYTHING artificial. Stop thinking about porn, stop looking at pictures, stop all of it. The fantasizing is just as bad, as anything that gets you excited triggers a dopamine release in your brain. The reason you can't get fully erect is because your dopamine receptors are desensitized right now which means even when you see a naked girl and your brain releases dopamine, you don't get fully erect because of the desensitization. You have to have a break from all of it for a good while to let your brain's dopamine receptors re-sensitize again. Once that happens (and I'm speaking from experience here) you'll have full lift off like you were 21 again.

    I was just like you - had to fantasize about porn while in bed with my wife just to get a 60% erection. After staying away from porn for about 2 weeks and forcing myself not to think about porn or fantasy, the change was unbelievable. I mean holy shit, just the sight of a woman's bra through her shirt would get my dick twitching. So do hard mode for a bit and just get away from the stuff. You'll start feeling so much better but you gotta really dedicate yourself. See how you're feeling in 2-4 weeks. If you really follow this, you'll be surprised how much better you feel.
     
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  10. Dax25

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    Ok guys I thank you all for your advice. Don't be sorry for being direct and honest, I only appreciate it. Honestly I expected this kind of advice. I perfectly know that edging is really bad. I do it a little, but I do, and I know I shouldn't. So, in the last days, after reading your posts, I've been trying to be more strict with myself. On this week my GF should have her period so we thought we would not be having sex. But on Tuesday night she came to my flat and we cuddled a bit. For her period hadn't really started yet, we decided to do it because I had an erection and it seemed like it could have worked. But when the moment came I went completely flaccid, again. At the end we were able to make it but it lasted a few seconds. It was awful. And this was happening after 5 days since the previous time we had sex. So, again, it seems things are worsening. Now I'm sure that we will not have any intercourse till next week because her period has eventually come.

    In the meantime, I noticed that my mood is really bad and that I have almost no erection during the day. I only get some occasional morning wood, but they're kinda week. At the same time, my mind often indulges on sex and sex-related issues that I'm experiencing. The will to check if it still works by watching some porn is still there in my brain, but I can control it quite good at this point (even though I should work more on edging and fantasizing). But, you know, it looks like it's all about thoughts that come up in my mind, instead of natural arousal or spontaneous erections. Is it possible for me to be entering a flatline, in your opinion? I read one of you suggesting this, so, I'd like to get some feedback on this. And in that case... should I consider quitting sex with GF till I get out of the flatline?
     
  11. RollerCoaster

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    You are describing sex as an awful experience at the moment. As long it feels wrong you maybe should not do it and not force yourself :/
     
  12. philip27

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    How it is going?
     
  13. MarinoBigFan1984

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    You sound like you have performance anxiety more than anything. If you constantly think about what’s going to happen that’s not good. Just try and enjoy the moment.
     

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