Day 27 - Came while dryhumping a girl. Does this count as a reset?

Title says it all. I'm on day 27 of a proper streak. I'm a virgin, never been able to get it up with a girl (PIED) but today I had a girl over and we started making out and then she was on top of me and I was fingering her. We both still had all our clothes on. The friction of my jeans felt good and I probably got to 70% erect and had an orgasm. Does this count as a reset? Should I just plow on?

Should mention that the main reason I am doing nofap is for the ED. I haven't watched porn in like 4 months now.

 

I see. But it doesn't count as natural sex, my penis was not in contact with her skin (my jeans instead) so could it be taken to be M? My goal says no PM but actually I was trying to avoid PMO for at least the first 90 days. However this felt kind of unavoidable as it happened so suddenly and I don't think I could have stopped it. Also feels like a step in the right direction given I was able to get turned on with a real woman (trying to recover from PIED).

I know I'm moving in the right direction, just wanted to gauge thoughts on whether I should completely avoid all physical contact with girls for the first 90 days in order to speed up the reboot and recovery.

 

I guess. To recover from PIED should I carry on doing stuff like this or not?

 

I don't know what's the best to do? There's so many conflicting reports about no PMO/ no PM being better. I started out aiming for no PMO but I have obviously O'd

Exactly! My goal is to successfully have sex with real women regularly - the main reason I decided to do nofap. I haven't watched porn in 4 months now, I don't even crave it tbh but I have loads of social, anxiety issues from years of use that make it hard for me to get with a girl

Thank you! I was worried as I had heard its bad to O while not fully erect - I'm not sure how hard I was as it happened so fast and I didn't get a chance to check. Hopefully I'm not too sensitive next time (27 days will do that to anyone I guess)

Isn't that bad to O while not fully erect?

 

Yeah for sure have made some changes! Stopped porn, exercise 5 times a week, watch my calories, eat balanced, sleep more, started meditation, reading regularly, no video games, deleted Facebook, Snapchat, tinder. Only one I haven't stopped is drinking.

I agree, I've been holding myself back for the last 12 years - looking back I probably was mildly depressed the entire time. I feel like I'm coming out of my flatline now (lasted maybe 2 months) and I have random bursts of happiness and find myself more playful/talkative at work. I've always been shy but back when I was a kid I was more confident so hopefully that should come back. I don't really have a plan apart from that, I'm just going to see how it goes. What would you recommend?

 

So complete 90 days without O? How will an incomplete reboot give me PE?

 

Yeah hopefully not too much longer. I know my counter says 30 days but i actually started nofap 4 months ago now. Have had relapses but nothing too drastic and no internet porn use in any case. When I was in a flatline I was scared I would feel like that forever.

I used to love reading, trying to get back into it. Have a short attention span so sticking to fiction for now but will definitely give those types of books a go. Any recommendations?

I have just read that O while not fully erect is bad for you as it trains your body to do that, leading to PE and erection problems. Don't get me wrong, I am happy for the experience, in the past I've had beautiful girls willing in my bed but my little guy has had no interest. The only way I could describe those failures was that I felt numb down there and the whole experience felt alien. At least this time there were signs of life I'm gonna keep trying and see how it goes

 

Update: Feeling like this nofap is working. I think I'm out of a flatline, my overall mood has definitely lifted and I'm getting morning wood and can stimulate boners pretty regularly. The only issue is I still can't do it with a girl. Like when I'm on my couch and we're cuddling/making out I have a semi but then when we go to the bedroom it goes back to being numb down there and I have actually cum in my pants while not even hard. Is my issue now performance anxiety? Should I take some blue pills to help me over the hump?