Day 18: Bad Date Adventures & Fighting Off Relapsing

Hope you stayed strong! Porn numbs us to our real feelings. If you feel stressed, FEEL STRESSED. Don't numb it. Our emotions guide us and lead us to take action. How are you meeting your women? Online dating? Real life approaching? Friends of friends? Just curios. Best of luck brother. Feel free to message me to talk more. I'm struggling with some general loneliness right now in regards to not having a gf but know that I am on the right path. I am focusing on self improvement. I don't have proeblems with women. The only problem is with myself. When I'm not feeling confident, I don't even try with women. When I am feeling confident, all is good. My focus is on myself and self improvement right now. I also just cut out alcohol to put the pressure on myself to really be comfortable in my own skin and confident. I don't want to rely on alcohol for socializing anymore.

 

bad dates are my favorite dates for the following reasons:

1) It gives you insight into what you want in a partner. Why did it go bad? Was she on her phone the whole time? Was she uninterested? Did she have nothing in common with you?

2) It is hilarious. I love calling my buddies and having a great laugh after a bad date.

3) It gives you insight into how YOU can improve. Were you on your phone the whole time? Can you improve your social skills? Did you keep a conversation going?

4) it makes you learn how to deal with discomfort. This gives you CONFIDENCE.

Sounds like the spark just wasnt there my friend. it happens to me all the time. Best advice: learn from this, and keep going on dates until you find a good one!!

 

How are you today?

 

Hey man it is very normal to experience ups and downs and there are variables out of your control. Just stay positive and never stop trying to be the best version of yourself.

 

I went on a date and she was on Instagram the whole time. We couldn't make any eye contact because she was staring at her phone the whole time. That was the date from hell. No there wasn't a second date.

 

Congratulations!

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Completely understand what you mean by attracting a quality women. That has been a goal of mine too. I don't go after women that are of the highest quality (looks and personality) usually bc of what I believe is self esteem related deep down. With nofap, my confidence is up much more. I find myself wanting to speak with the most beautiful women, just to see them smile and laugh. I see their beauty as an additional feature now and not everything. It's pretty cool how my brain is changing.

 

Dont let the teeth get in the way brother. My best friend's mouth looks like he got run over with a lawn mower. But the guy slays. Its all about the confidence. That comes from your heart, not your mouth!