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Day 150 I really need help/support otherwise it's over

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by goodnice, Aug 30, 2018.

  1. I will keep it simple... Maybe you'll find it valuable... Maybe not.
    In no way is this a judgement on anybody or anything... Just my opinion.

    What are you looking for? Fun? Intimacy? Sensual Pleasure? Soul Food?

    If you are meeting her to have fun or enjoy intimacy and pleasure... It is not gonna be a good idea.

    However if it is something deeper and nobler... Then it is all good my friend. It will help you in your reboot and life in general.

    Hope it helps.
     
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  2. goodnice

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    Thanks sherlock

    fun, intimacy, pleasure if i'm gonna be honest. There is nothing noble about this
     
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  3. What about her? Do you think she knows it is nothing deeper... Cause it's not only you and your life but hers too.
     
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    IMG_1674.jpg Okay everyone i made the right choice. I know in my heart that I did. I blocked and deleted her number. So i can't go back to her. I feel bad of course and a bit sad but ultimately, it's for the greater good. I'm not going to relapse!!! Neverrrr

    I sent her this long message^

    Thank you all so much!!! You helped me clear my mind and make the right choice
     
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  5. goodnice

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    This scared the crap out of me.
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/new-addiction-private-webcam-sessions.190915/

    I am so incredibly glad and thankful i didn't go through with this. This would have undoubtedly escalated and i would have opened a whole new can of worms. I would have become addicted to webcams and ruin myself. This thread is quite convincing. It said that private webcams are like cocaine. You become obsessed. I could have gotten into some really dangerous dark stuff. Please don't get into this. Thanks everyone
     
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  6. SpringMatrix

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    Your number will always inspire. Think that way.
     
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    buddy, i would advise you to keep your conversations clean. sext in my opinion is similar to porn. you do not have to be afraid of you falling back to where you have come from that will not happen because someone who would fall back to the old ways would not have brought this up and asked help from his friends out of concern, that is a virtue my friend.

    few days were unproductive because you were thinking about sex so what?? acknowledge it and get on with it.
     
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  8. goodnice

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    wow my friend thanks for this, for real. Made me feel emotional honestly, touched my heart. You're right dude, i've moved on from those all consuming thoughts of sex. I feel settled now and that i don't have to have some form of release.

    Thank you for saying this
     
  9. Hey goodnice,
    just wanna mention that the way you fight for purity is very inspiring.
    It kept me this morning from doing sth wrong.
     
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    Awesome bro, that's great you didn't relapse this morning. That made my day and really motivates me that you found it inspiring.
    It can be tough to fight for purity sometimes but you have to have the attitude and mindset that you can NEVER PMO again. You have to accept that you can't watch porn ever again, and when deep in your heart, you acknowledge that and are okay with it, only then you can tackle this and beat it.

    You also have to really want it as the pic above illustrates
     
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  11. Goodnice,
    My friend, that message is a seriously Alpha male mad props move! Let me make a few comments about it:
    1. I hate to be a buzzkill to guys out there on this site who want to go NoFap so they can ultimately get women, but if that is the motivation, you guys are in for a MAJOR let down. Women are out to take your time and resources. They don't care how they do it. They are ruthless. Ask the MGTOW guys. All of this huge buildup of emotions, energy, worry and productivity for SEX? Get some perspective! An O lasts a few minutes. How much effort does that deserve?

    2. If a man thinks a woman is going to support him with love, friendship or some idea of companionship, think again! She is not interested in the guy BEYOND what SHE WANTS. Period. If it's not all about her, it is nothing to her. She doesn't care if your band went platinum, she doesn't care if your book is on the NYT bestseller list again, and she doesn't care if you make the Forbes Richest list! It's about her emotions, her problems, and what she wants, and NOTHING MORE AT ANY TIME. Is that what you want for your life? You only live once...

    3. Also remember, if she brings a child into the world, YOU WILL PAY FOR IT FOR 18 years. That means that if you have to slave in a cubicle, flip houses, flip burgers, do flips on stage like David Lee Roth, or feed Flipper all day, then that is your future. Enjoy the next 40+ years of that crap.

    4. Understand this about a woman: her goal is to make her sex as elusive as possible. If she thinks you have resources, she makes it all the harder. I know it sounds strange, but it's a fact. The roadies for Van Halen get more than Van Halen! The reason I know this is because I have a friend who played for a major label rock group some years back. He told me that the stars just don't get it. The roadies do. The reason is that if a woman can make Bill Gates interested in her, if she gives it up, he won't give her any thing. Why would he? Bill Gates is not stupid, Apple fans. So the more productive and rich a guy is, he gets more lonely because the hot girls that come around only tease him. Because they can't get his money through sex. So they stay close to him, tease him, and suddenly, their cousin needs surgery and needs $20,000, or their buddy in Provo is opening a barber shop, or somebody needs an investment in a diamond mine in Ekati. He writes the check, doesn't he? Of course! The next day, he calls her up. She has vanished. That's the reality.

    5. So men on here think that their moms or sisters wouldn't do that? Believe me, they will. They just can't right now. Give them the opportunity, they are as predatory as a stripper. Their methods are the only things that are different. A stripper uses her body, mom uses guilt, they all have some kind of unforeseen method.

    6. So keep all of this in mind the next time a woman treats you badly, refuses sex, or rejects you in some way. The reason she does that is to get you to pursue you, and once you are in the pursuit, you can't quit. How can a man quit? It's impossible when it seems like sex is imminent. And the closer it seems, the more she's planning to make it elusive. She does not have to have the sex. She can take it or leave it, and she can take or leave you, whether you met her last week or if you've been married 40 years. Give her what she wants, or take a hike.

    7. Think I'm lying? Then go after whatever you think she has that you can't get, and get back to me after the nasty divorce, the venerial disease, the empty bank account, the ignored texts, and the endless jabber that she thinks is cool, which is stuff that you dropped out of boredom years ago.

    So, anybody know of any good online dating sites?
     
  12. Wow that was a long comment on my short encouragement for goodnice.
    My english skills do not allow me to decipher what an "Alpha male mad propsmove" might be but I'm sure it ticks you off.

    Im here to encourage people for rebooting and get encouragement . PMO had some sad consequence's on intimacy with my loving wife in the last 15 years. She is the best partner I could have in this fight.
     
  13. FlyingPizza

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    @goodnice, I'm so glad you didn't do it. I got really anxious when I read this post just now. I'm so relieved you're still with us on this struggle. You're a source of inspiration to all of us, both men and women. You're a beast!
     
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  14. goodnice

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    Thank you Ms. But you spoke too soon. Look at my profile
     
  15. FlyingPizza

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    Just looked at your profile. My statement stands. You're an inspiration. You did the right thing for 155 days. Just think how insane that is. How many people do you know who are able to resist temptation and do what's right, not what feels good, for 155 freaking days?

    If a man was polite for 155 days and rude for one, would you say that he's a rude person? If a woman worked out for 155 days and didn't go to the gym the next, would you say she lacks discipline? Of course not! We're only human and we screw up.

    You might not have much confidence in yourself right now, but I do. I don't think your relapse will bring an end to your future because I have faith that you'll do what you know it's right: You'll continue on this path, even if it doesn't feel good, because you know it's the right thing to do.

    Stay strong. I'm rooting for you.
     
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  16. goodnice

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    Wow Thank you so much. Love
     
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  17. Shamgar,
    Don't worry about the "Alpha male mad props move" statement. Goodnice knows what I mean, which is that he is an Alpha male, who is a strong leader, and he deserves "mad props", which is street slang for "respect", and I added "move" just to refer to the fact that he sent that message to that girl, which took considerable courage.

    The reason that his move deserves respect is because Goodnice does not have to be a slave to women, his sex drive or his feelings for a girl. He has put his own needs, confidence and potential above the earthy and temporary mirage of what a woman offers. This means that the next time a woman enters his life, it's going to be more on his terms, and is going to be more of what he wants. And if she hesitates, he has the strength to throw her overboard, and push her head into the waves as she sinks into the fathoms.

    He's a guy who is a mover and a shaker.
     
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