Day 150 I really need help/support otherwise it's over

Hey man, those neural pathways are still there & they will always be there.. Tha's why the thoughts.. The carnal desires never actually leave but we actually try to replace them with healthy outlets.. But you've come a long way now & that's great !! Congratulations on completing 150 days.. Its a very tricky situation you've put yourself in.. Fantasy is a silent killer.. I have read hear if we dont diffuse the fire within mere seconds then relapse is always on the horizon.. Now, it's upto you & your goals whether you want to go ahead with it.. It's your life ultimately.. 1 part of brain will always rationalize that its with real human being but its sexting & facetime (p subs) not the real thing itself but its your call ultimately mate.. Its like addict toiling for one last hit which never is the last hit..

 

Yes indeed, insomnia, eating too much meat or spicy, spending too much time on the device, etc can make us real horny.. These are the superficial ones.. Deeper are the loneliness, sadness, broken heart, anger, frustration etc.. If we learn to deal with these emotions, then there's no need of escape from reality into fantasy.. God bless you mate if you believe in Him.. Psubs are like silent knives, we dont realize until too much damage is done/until it's too late.. Cheers & good luck mate!!

 

Not too much too say.Bt avoid sexting.This is as bad as porn.Focus on ur own recovery.Dont focus too much on girls.Dont stay alone at ur home.I know figt is not easy bt u can do this.About urges,We feel urges at any time doesnt matter we are on higher streak or not....

 

These are main symtoms,Thts y mostly people do m and watching porn after quiting pmo i m realising the reality.

 

Okay, just how hot is this chic? Asking for a friend.

 

I think it's the wrong mindset to think that you've failed if you make a mistake after 150 days of nofap. You've come very far. That should be your focus, no matter what happens. If you relapse, don't think that those 150 days were a waste and now you have to start all over again. Think that this is a journey, and you only had one failure in 151 days. That's not bad. You've not set yourself back to day one. You've achived a lot. You're not the fap guy you were at day one. Be prepared that the first days after the relapse will be hard, like the first days when you initially started this yourney. This I think is the right and natural way to think IF a relapse happens (Not before it happens. That may make you lose motivation!).

 

Hello goodnice!

I think you know the best decision which you can choose and take it into the action. I see you are feeling aroused for longer peroid of time, but like you personally know, for sure better than me, your unplesant feelings will pass, it's possible that even very soon.

Like I said before you decide what to do, but I think you have mainly two different kinds of decision to choose from:

• You can agree. I am affraid that something bad could happen to you, but if it's your closest person, with wich you want to be for your whole life there shouldn't happened anything bad. At the same time I worry if you agree you might want to repete this again, again and again. That's sadly may happen.
• You can refuse. That might be very suprising for your other half, but on the other side you can show, that you are really conscious man, which takes responsibility for your own, and other people life. You can show, that you hold your life strongly and have control over yourself. You can show that people can rely on you. By this way you can impress her with your strength and build really solid relationship.

I know you have inner fight inside of you. Remember goodnice, like you know sexual behaviors aren't most important in anyone's life. Of course in specified way sex it's human most important thing, but only for marvel of creating of human and his next generations. I meant whole kind of "sex for fun stuff", it's in fact really unnecessary. This "fun" don't have to, but very often leads onto wrong life paths, look back at history! Many people struggle with those troubles for decades, ages, thousents of years of human existence!

Just think dear goodnice, just think... What could happen if you agree or disagree? Maybe better would be to forget about this situation and hang out somewhere? Spend great time together in ways, you both will be remember for your whole beautiful life!

Take care of yourself and choose, what is the best!!!

Best regards for you and your closest!

 

@goodnice Before you do anything contact this girl and postpone your session with her. Don't cancel, just postpone it till tomorrow, after tomorrow if possible.

 

@goodnice

• This is your addict's brain screaming for a dopamine fix. If it was something emotional that stressed you, you need to address it hands on, don't run back to your old ways.
• Ask yourself this question, why the hell have you been through those 150 days of nofap? 150 bloody tough days of fighting yourself and your urges, of building a discipline ? EXACTLY TO BE ABLE TO FIGHT BACK WHEN MOMENTS LIKE THIS COME! Are you really willing to sacrifice the entire system you've built just for something as pathetic as a facetime fapping session?
• If you're addict's brain's trying to rationalize this action, it could be telling you that it will only be a minor setback and then you'll get back on track. BUT you have to expect the worst scenario possible; going back into a full-blown relapse which God only knows when you'll recover from. Do you really want to trade all the effort you put, 150 days of hard work, for a momentary fleeting pleasure, which will be instantly followed by a dive back into the abyss of regret, despair, self-hatred... ?
• Again, if nothing's waking you up, just postpone the bloody session with her. Tomorrow do the same.
• If you have an AP stay on with them as long as it takes for this to pass.

 

Hey @goodnice how far away are you from this girl? Any chance you could just meet up for a date this weekend?

 

I agree. I would discourage you from doing this at all if it feels like you're throwing away your morals or the goals you're working so hard for, but take some time to cool down and reflect before making any decision you may come to regret. Come on, man!