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Day 12, huge depression

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by catriel, Oct 15, 2015.

  1. catriel

    catriel Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys, sorry for the long post and the bad english.

    I started with nofap 12 days ago after reading a lot of stories here. I have never seen fapping as a real problem besides feeling like a stupid after fapping.
    For me the porn has never been a big problem, what is worse I always used fantasies in my own head. And im talking about fantasizing for hours while fapping some times, getting huges dopamine releases with this fantasies beside the fap itself.
    At least one fap per day or more since I was 12, and not im 23 and the funny part its that Im not having big urges to pmo since i started with nofap.
    The first 7 days it was getting better and better, for the first time in my life i could look to the people in the eyes, especially to girls, without getting the urge of look somewhere else, no 100% comfortable but hey! for 7 days it was an incredible sucess for me.
    The thing is that i started to feel anxiety and depression, looking at the bad side of everything life for no reason. Also i started having a huge needs of fantasizing, not much to fap, and started feeling the need of attention from chicks, or like feeling that I want a girlfriend but i could never find one.
    Talking about that, I never had a girlfriend in my 23 years, which is funny, since many times some girls hitted on me, but they usually end running away like for no reason. Also i have been always scared of being rejected, which made all this worse.
    In general, most of people always rejected, and I tried to change an uncountable amount of times, getting a few results, but nothing spectacular, even while giving spectacular efforts.

    Today I had a fucking horrible day, not that anything bad really happened, it was like depression for my own toughts, like thinking that my life its a waste, and that i dont worth a shit.

    Is this normal? I feel that all the efforts that i made to feel better with myself all this years its going to the toilet. Have been months since I had a depression like this.

    I would really apprecite your opinions and again sorry for my bad english.
     
  2. Black Dragon

    Black Dragon Fapstronaut

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    move on no matter how hard it gets, deal with it, because it is you who made the decision in the first place, carry it out like a champion.
     
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  3. catriel

    catriel Fapstronaut

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    I know, i will not quit nofap no matter what. But I just wanted to know if someone has experienced this grade of depression for no reason doing nofap
     
  4. asfixiated

    asfixiated Fapstronaut

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    The most important thing is that you don't make relationships with women an end goal. That's always been my big mistake. You want to focus on becoming the best you that you can be!

    The anxiety and depression are often the hardest thing for me to deal with when I'm on NoFap, but I think that's because I mistakenly perceived PMO as an "escape" and as a form of "entertainment". In reality it isn't an escape, it's an illusion! It's like smoking - smoking doesn't "relax" you, it's just that you're addicted and become stressed if you don't smoke.

    I've found that the best way to beat feelings of sadness is to find something small and positive to do! In fact just forcing yourself to do anything positive when you're sad is a great help.
     
  5. Hopper

    Hopper New Fapstronaut

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    Yes. I've had the same feelings. Please don't let it discourage you. It helps to know there is someone else out there fighting.
     
  6. catriel

    catriel Fapstronaut

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    Yeah, I suppose that I should focus on improve myself. Im actually trying to do that, focusing in my studies and working out, but its getting difficult with this shitty depression.

    I think that I have been using the fap as a way to scape from reallity, mostly in cases like going out to a party and dont hit any girl, the go back my house and fap fantasizing about me getting laid in that party.
    Yeah pretty much sick.

    I think that fantasizing is my biggest problem besides fap, Im feeling with this experience , that i have been using it to stay in my comfort zone, to dont take any risk and get a "reward" anyways.

    Thanks for your support, it means a lot for me.
     
  7. asfixiated

    asfixiated Fapstronaut

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    No problem! And if you struggle keeping commitments, I typed up this post on building small habits and creating a good mindset. It might be what you're looking for. (Shameless self-promotion, I know :D)
     
  8. yousuff

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    Your depression will more likely to stay few more days that is what i faced but now the severity of depression doesn't overcome my daily routine. I must admit i still in depression but severity changed. Take walk on street a little more faster than you always walk and this is i am doing when severity of depression escalate.
     
  9. Shivkumar96

    Shivkumar96 New Fapstronaut

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    Day 12... Met a couple of hard days.. same here feeling low, but hey come on buddy.. hang on.. U made it so far.. just few more days to get rid of this pmo thing... Cling on Brother!!
     

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