Cycle of relapsing every week

Don’t beat yourself up about relapsing. Finding what causes your urges and your trigger points is half of the battle to no PMO. The other half is the determination not to go back, no matter how you feel.

Anxiety is quite a good motivation, because it normally always happens on relapse. There are many other good motivators too. As long as you have people around you, and your spending time away from the screen, you are reducing your chances significantly already.

Thinking about the long term consequences of relapsing is another good way of focusing when you get the urges. You could end up going back to porn for a number of years, and scrape your way through life at a time when that extra push was the difference between one lifestyle to another.

 

Excellent point -- don't beat yourself up about relapse. This isn't easy, and the fact that you're trying is an important step forward. If you go a week and relapse, well at least you went a week, right? That's better than before. Just keep trying to go forward in baby steps. Resolve to get to 8 days. If you get to day 8, aim for 10. If you get to ten, aim for 15.

Good luck

 

Its become a routine for you, specifically on a subconscious level it seems. I was basically stuck in that place for all of 2017, every 2-3 weeks id fuck up. It wasn't till I stoped giving a fuck about counting days that I broke that loop.

Please read at least the 1st bit of this.
https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/seven-days-now-what.183685/#post-1566190

Just live by the idea that The only thing that matters in a given day is not fucking up. Nothing in the past matters and the future isn't your concern, all that matters is making it through today.

So if something like "Its only been a week, that's not a lot of time who cares?" Pops into your head go with that idea that the past is completely irrelevant to you. Same with the future. I've had so many stupid fuck ups at the end of a month caused by the lie "Get it out of your system now and have a nice fresh start next month". Same thing, the future doesn't matter to me, all that matters is today.

Also keep in mind the fact that urges DO just pass on thier own. There's literally never a time where you can say "I need to get it out of my system" and have it be true, thats complete bullshit, it'll pass on its own. Most of the time within like 30 minutes to an hour.

Stay strong man! Good luck!

 

How do you feel after a relapse? If you have feelings of disappointment, disgust and self loathing it might be useful to concentrate on them when battling your urges???
Good luck anyway

 

Even in those times the feeling does pass, it could be more than a day but it does pass. Try practicing meditation to become more mindful but also just find things to put your focus on in general. Maybe something you enjoy that's fallen on the backburner or something completely new, just find things to divert your attention towards.

 

Your body is not “starving” but your brain is starving. It wants it’s weekly dopamine fix. And it can get really uncomfortable. Especially the first few weeks. Every week you don’t give in it gets a little bit easier. If you don’t feed the wolf it will eventually starve. Keep up the good fight!

 

So much useful information for me here to, amazing. Thanks guys and Jessoy, stay strong man, I'm also in the early stages of my reboot.

Tonight I'll try to find some time to meditate because I'm also struggling at the moment. I can only hope it gives you some energy to beat up your urges like you've never seen before.

Stay strong man, I mean it.

 

Hang in there dude!

 

Yeah I also made it trough my last urges for now and I'm happy with that, so let's keep on beating them.