~Currently 8 Months in of NO PMO REBOOT. Ask Me Anything!~

Hey Mateo,

I started to PMO at the age of 13. I don't think it really became an issue until the age of 14-15. I then realized it was an addiction after getting married a year and a half ago and I couldn't just stop even after trying as hard as I could. I hit rock bottom not too long ago. I ended up starting counceling, telling my friends in small groups, and seeking God with all my heart. My wife has been so supportive even though I know it breaks her heart. I am currently 19 days clean and 12 of those days are on Hard mode. I have 2 questions for you and I would greatly appreciate you guidance.

1. My counselor recommended no sex for 90-120 so my brain can fully reboot. You said 6 months be better but obviously it's different for me because im married and sex is a very important part of marriage. Do you think 90-120 days away from PMO is good enough for me to come back to my wife, engage in healthy sexual activity, and then be healed enough not to return to PMO and continue healing from that point from a healthy point of view?

2. I've been noticing more and more of the little things I struggle with the longer im way from PMO. One of the things I hate and im currently working on is looking at other women. I have a few techniques to avoid this but how long till im not as likely to feel tempted to look at them? Is it only bad now because I've done it for so long and it's attached to my addiction?

Thanks in advance for your response!!!

 

Hey I have some personal experience on quitting porn and have also been addicted to porn from a young age (about 12). I've found woman become more enjoyable to be around in general after a period of abstaining from PMO and your wife should be no exception. As far as other woman coming off as attractive, yes I think that this will change with time if you keep clean from porn and PMO altogether in general. They will seem irrestistible atleast IME/IMO for awhile then it becomes normalized again and they will seem just like any other beautiful human being. Your will power and ability to look away will continue to increase as time moves forward though it may take several weeks to several months for your mind to come clean so to speak about desiring all the pretty attractive bodies wandering around the planet. (; Hope this helps have a nice day and I wish you well on your journey. You have the powa!

 

Thank you so much for your reply. That is very helpful information. One day at a time brother!

 

I agree with what you said, looking away is really what we gotta do to help ourselves. I kinda became a creep for a awhile there when I first quit pmo, I was literally following woman around just too look at there bodies. Luckily I did not get into any trouble but I could have easily got into some problems for staring too much. Good luck with your journey bro.

 

haha I know the feeling, you have the power my friend. Journey forward.