Creating a Better Life

Discussion in 'Ages 30-39' started by Omotenashi, May 12, 2018.

Do you think that you have a screen addiction?

  1. Yes, and it has caused me to look at IP more often.

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    42.9%
  2. Yes, but it didn't affect my use of IP.

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    14.3%
  3. Nope, can't say I do.

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  1. Omotenashi

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    Hey all.
    This isn't my first journal here. This is a bit of a continuation of a previous one. I started my first journal here just over 4 months back when I realized that I couldn't continue my life as it was. I won't go into details. Just check my old journal if you really want to know.
    ( https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/creating-real-change-in-life.147508/ )
    I'm starting this one because I think that over the last four months, I've reached new realizations about a lot of things. So it seems appropriate to create a new journal.
    I left off in my last journal with the realization that I am not just trying to get over an internet porn addiction, but also a screen addiction.
    To deal with this, I decided to keep my computer power cables at my workplace. (Which for the record, was an awesome idea.) It's helping to break down this problem, and it allows me time to build up a better life for myself. After all, computers aren't the problem. I am my own problem.

    Anyways, I'll be updating here from time to time. I've got a poll up at the top about IP use and screen addiction. If you'd like, add your experience and answer! Otherwise, I wish everyone well, and a beautiful PMO-free day.
    -Peace
     
    Last edited: May 18, 2018
  2. Omotenashi

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    days 1-6 have been good. I’ve been productive, and have maintained myself through problems.
    Keeping focused on the life that I want to live, and making every day count.
    In times where there were problems, I tried to work with myself instead of directly opposing myself.
    That’s it for now. I’ve got some studies and reading to do.

    -peace
     
  3. Omotenashi

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    Days 7-12 have been alright.
    Just trying to be as zen as possible through this whole thing. When libido is high, one of the best things for me is just feeling it. Then letting it pass. It's as frustrating as hell, but it works.
    I'm entering the sixth month of my efforts. I haven't yet reached my goal of getting a whole 90-day reboot in, but I have made significant steps forward in reducing and recovering. Every time I messed up, I made improvements. I'm beginning to see some of the results. I'm not there yet, but getting closer.
    Still fighting the voice in me that asks me what all this is really worth.
    Just gotta keep on looking forward.
    -Peace
     
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  4. Omotenashi

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    Days 1-5. Part 2.
    Yeah, let myself down a few days back. But, I’m back on top of things now. I’ll be trying to bring in some of the good habits that I used to really focus on in February and March. Hopefully, reinforcing those will help me move off of this plateau and onto the next level.
    Ive been reading and drawing more often, which is a good sign. Reading has always helped me through tough areas. Drawing can still b psychologically difficult for some reason. I don’t quite know why. But it’s coming back a little.
    Been thinking that views on sex and libido in culture are super difficult to understand and reconcile...
    Just gotta keep on going. I really want to get up to one month without PMO.
    Hope all is well with everyone else.
     
  5. Omotenashi

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    Hey, all.
    Checking in again. I’ve been forging onwards. Things have been a bit hectic, but overall manageable. I’ve been able to get through periods of high libido alright. After looking back in my notes and journals, one thing I’ve noticed is that when my daily habits and routines start to break down, it usually means I’m heading for trouble.
    Do any of you guys go through something like that? How do you get through it?

    I hit a lot of my goals this week, and next week I’d like to get back into a regular meditation practice. That was always super useful.
    I’ve continued drawing and reading, which is all good.
    My mental landscape (now that it’s been six months of working through this....) is beginning to show signs of improvement. As long as I keep working through this, I think those will continue to build up.
    Thankfully, only good news this week. Still got that dream of one month of no PMO stuck in my head. That’s the first hurdle!
    Forging onward!

    -peace
     
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  6. Omotenashi

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    Still in the game. Learning and re-learning some things about myself.
    Libido is managed for the moment. Looking to continue working towards the goals that I set for myself in December. Got some work to do, that's all I know!
    This was a really helpful bit. It doesn't relate directly to IP and PMO, but I think the speaker makes some strong points that I certainly found had connection to my own life.

    Anyways, looking forward to what is to come.
    Cheers
     
  7. Omotenashi

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    My goal for August is to check in here once a day for the 31 days of August.
    As day 1 of August, it's been a relatively uneventful day. Just taking care of life. No bumps.
     
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  8. Omotenashi

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    All good here. Just keeping to my studies, keeping up with friends and things like that. Today was smooth sailing.
    See you all tomorrow. Have a good one everyone!
     
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    You got this, man! Keep going!
     
  10. Omotenashi

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    Another day in the struggle. Struggling to manage everything that's going on.
    Trying to read more to understand myself.
    Books on my reading list now:
    Buddha's Brain
    Man and His Symbols
    Three Essays on Sexuality
    They've been helpful to me so far. For those of you who read out there, what books have been helpful to you?
     
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  11. Omotenashi

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    Thanks for the support!
     
  12. Hasegawa

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    Hi, kinda just came to turn the favor but ended up reading a bit of both of your journals and what you mentioned about Screen addiction hit me a bit.
    I'm pretty addicted to that as well, I think. Something I will have to consider in the future, for sure.
     
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  13. Omotenashi

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    Continuing on. Moving to read more and sketch more. Man and His Symbols is some good stuff. Seriously. I don't know how anyone could be dead for so long yet still have so much relevance. Although, I guess I should mention that I haven't figured out if Jung is a starting point, or not.
    Hasegawa, thanks for the comment. Personally, I think a lot of issues that people face, including IP addiction, are not isolated problems. That part of the reason they are so hard to overcome is because the connect to so many different facets of our lives. For me that was partly screen addiction. The less time I look at my lappy, the more time I spend taking care of things that are important, and actually looking at the world of the real. I don't know exactly how you are with it, but I'm glad to hear that it was helpful to you! If you were looking for advice, I'd say to try and keep your cables or lappy somewhere away from your living space to see how it goes. If you do try anything like that, please let me know! Best of luck in the future!
     
  14. Hasegawa

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    I'm trying to do something similar but I might need more time to really go, your style. For now I'm thinking on slowly replace the time for computer with activities outside. As I (hope) to get employed and maybe go to school. I will have replaced most of the time with more productive things. After that, I will take that time left for quality time with wife, family, friends. Sorry to post this in your thread but somewhat it feels like I'm giving accountability to someone. :)
     

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