I have a major issue with validation seeking and dont know How to overcome this. I realized it now as I met a new girl. Since I met her I have put her on piedestal and I am just realizing How much I have Constantly tried to impress her or making her like me or validate me. I have tried to show off my lifestyle, I have tried to appear busy, everything all small things I Constantly do has been in order to somehow please her/impress her. The worst thing is that I do not even think I am that interested in this girl, it is all for validation seeking trying to prove that she can fall for me, I do all this and I do not even know if I truly want her But have been trying so hard to get her. I have constant fear that she will go to someone else even thiugh I do not want to be with her I have made it as a thing that I can only value myself if she chooses me and no one else. I have realized now that I have Done this in the past everytime I have met a girl Constantly trying to week her validation or impress. I am assuming this somehow comes from past heart breakes or girls leaving me making me try to validate myself. I just do not know How to stop this behaviour. I am thinking about her right now and feel anxiety, I want her to want me so I do not loose face in the eyes of others. It is not even about her, I want her to want me so that I get validation from others even more than from her. Just wanted to share and discuss and try to hear from people How to stop this behaviour and cycle. How did you change ? By what means ?