Constant sexual thoughts

I can relate to you. Your problem is not that you want to have meaningless sex or that you are not committed to a serious relationship. When I was a teenager, I was even worse. Your problem is that you are addicted. If you want to bring home a different girl every night, it's your choice. But most people who do this never indulge in sexual thoughts or fantasies. They are men of action, have sense of humor, look good, are self-confident. They don't think, they do. Also, having sex with escorts cannot be considered sex. You can start your sex life with an escort, but from my experience this is worse than masturbation. Because you don't do anything. You just pay for sex.

If you can't change your thoughts and desires, work hard to change your life. We are what we do. Go out. Don't stay indoors. Do a team sport. Get a hobby that implies meeting people (like mountaineering or playing an instrument). Get a part-time job. Learn how to dance with a partner. Learn a skill off youtube. Really, life is so rich and beautiful, that wasting it on porn or sex is a tragedy.

Having to interact with people, negotiating conflicts with people is going to make you stronger and better prepared for life. It will also give you motivation to keep up the good work.

 

Believe me or not, I am not trying to sell you nonsense. This is my advice. Look at the guys who have a (more or less) happy life, and who have a girlfriend or are successful with girls. Understand what kind of people they are. Don't look at bullies or dishonest people, because these people are the worst category of people and the most cowardly. First, look carefully at their character (courage, honesty, endurance), their manners, their skills; second, their physical appearance, hygiene, clothes, sense of humor. Everything is important. Do you have a favorite hero in action movies? Well, to start with, you could use him as a role model.

You think too much about having a girl. Life is not about having only. Life is also about giving. If a girl is with a guy who you think doesn't deserve that girl, maybe you should observe more carefully what a girl wants.

Sex is something normal, done by normal people, right? You are 100% normal. But you have to have a value of some sort (not material) in order to attract people.

And we're not only talking about sex. We're talking about any kind of relationship: friends, family, classmates, etc.

I suggest the following. Say to yourself: 'Yeah, ok, I know that I will never have a girlfriend. But at least I can make my life more beautiful. I'll go to a Latin dance club. I'll take up basketball again. I'll go jogging or mountaineering again. That's life, I'll try to enjoy it as much as I can.' In less than a year you'll notice a big difference. Whereas if you stay in your present-day situation, it may take you years to find a girl.

Success takes a lot of time and effort. Otherwise all the people around you would be happy and successful. So quit porn and take up a sport.