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Confused of sexual orientation at 25

Discussion in 'New to NoFap' started by Davecurtin1234, Dec 11, 2018.

  1. Dec 11, 2018 #1
    Davecurtin1234

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    Hi, I'm new here after last week coming to the realisation that I actually think I may be gay after possibly years of denial.

    I remember the first P I ever watch was just girls. I remember an absolute rush from it at that time.

    Now at a young age I was self conscious about my penis size. So started looking up others for comparison and eventually this led to GP. Now over the years I started exclusively watching it and now normal stuff does nothing for me. I watch almost daily and get withdrawal if I don't, but only g stuff

    I have been with a few girls over the years and I have been successful but I feel I may be gay as I do it. But after I'm cool and can lay with them etc.

    I eventually got on chat rooms etc and have met with a few guys. The thing is each time I finish I feel sick and go home and brush my teeth and shower (I don't mean any offence!)

    So basically I dont see girls as attractive anymore but it's been so long I'm wondering if I ever did. I am happy to also accept being gay or bi but after the acts I feel so wrong. With girls during I can perform but have thoughts but after I'm fine after. It's conflicting!

    Sorry that is very long, I've kept it bottled for so long and needed to let it out. I look forward to trying the movement and appreciate any advice big or small

    Thanks!
     
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  2. Dec 11, 2018 #2
    Delirious 1 2018

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    "Comparison is the thief of joy." --Theodore Roosevelt
    We have all felt inadequate at one time or another, and we have all compared ourselves and our bodies to others and felt inadequate. I do think this leads many times to creating "idols" of others' bodies and this can lead to/worsen our porn addictions.

    Sexual orientation is sometimes fluid for many people, so you are not alone. It doesn't really matter how you label yourself. The important thing to think about is that all of this makes you feel bad about yourself, so it can't be right. Right now (at least) PMO, and perhaps abstinence from all sexual activity right now seems the most helpful to your well-being. You can decide later what your orientation truly is. But the behaviors, regardless of orientation, are what seem to be causing you strife. This issue will take much prayer and/or counseling and/or discussion with close friends/family to sort out in the long run.

    Just take the first steps now to improving your self esteem, health, and well-being (physically, mentally, and spiritually). I'm praying for you, brother!
     
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  3. Dec 11, 2018 #3
    Grandpa61

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    It is my experience that P has a way of desensitizing you so what used to get you off stops working. So you try something else. This can make you very confused. Stop the P,M,O and reboot your brain. It might help with eliminating the confusion. Whatever direction your orientation takes you, you will be welcomed and encouraged here my friend!
     
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  4. Dec 11, 2018 #4
    IGY

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    I endorse what Grandpa says. I am pleased you have finally been able to talk about this mate. There are so many here with similar experiences to you, you won't believe it! Use the search feature ^ to find others with similar issues. Welcome Dave.
     
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  5. Dec 11, 2018 #5
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    I was also 25 when I had my coming out. Before that I thought it will disappear over time, but it got stronger year after year! A few years later, after I was having a lot of "fun" in the gay scene, I had a relationship with a man who was previously married to a woman and got divorced because of being gay. It was the best time of my life!
    Finding your own sexual orientation, can be very confusing!
    Do the 90 days NoPMO, get a clear head first and see where it leads you.
    And stay away from people who are not good for you, no matter if straight or gay!
     
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  6. Dec 11, 2018 #6
    Davecurtin1234

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    Thank you all, I am realising finally that I need to sort this out and stay away from PMO! It’s very daunting finally having to address something that’s gone on for so long but I’ll get there!
     
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  7. Dec 11, 2018 #7
    Davecurtin1234

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    Hi Peter,

    Do you mind if I ask more about how you came to realise you were gay? Did you ever feel “wrong” after meeting with guys? I think this is the thing confusing me most, if I felt really comfortable during and after I think I could accept it. Just wondering if you ever felt this way?
    Thank you!
     
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