Complete Abstinence

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by muntasira, Mar 1, 2014.

  1. muntasira

    muntasira Fapstronaut

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    This is my second day abstaining. I have relapsed so many times in the past until I have just lost count of it.Every time I relapsed I got mad and upset at myself that I always promised my self this is the last time! never again!. But there never was a last time! and I would go back through the same cycle. I am now 19 years and I don't want this addiction to continue when I turn 20.I made a new year resolution for 2014 that I will break free from this addiction and I actually believed it but it just took two weeks for me to relapse and damn it I couldn't believe it again in 2014!!! I am so tired of this addiction I can just give up almost anything I own just to be free but I know the addiction just doesn't go away in one day. And now here I am again on my second day hoping this time round it will be the last time!!!
     
  2. Loren

    Loren Guest

    I am with you man.
     
  3. muntasira

    muntasira Fapstronaut

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    Thanks so much bro
     
  4. shamrocknroll

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    Wow complete abstinence, that's admirable. You have my support friend.
     
  5. DarkATi

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    I am with you, but I also want to share a story with you.

    A few years ago I was seriously committed to quitting porn and masturbation. I went about 3, maybe 4 weeks without and was staying strong, until one day I just started obsessing about this one girl. I couldn't get her out of my brain. I was seriously hard up all the time. Eventually, I gave in to that temptation and masturbated.

    I was so angry with myself that it took MONTHS before I could stop masturbating and looking at porn after that. I beat myself up BIG TIME. I was so very angry.

    But, you know what?

    It did more harm than good. So, please be careful about beating yourself up over this. It is great that you want to quit, but realize that you are not the ANTICHRIST if you fall off the wagon. You're not a horrible, awful person because of a slip up like that—you're human.

    Your brain is wired to respond to porn like crack cocaine. You get addicted to that feeling.

    So, I now firmly believe that feeling bad about who you are is NEVER going to help you stop looking at porn or masturbating. It just starts a cycle of guilt.

    Instead, learn to accept yourself as a human. You are not perfect. You do bad things sometimes. We all do. It doesn't make the bad things "OK," or "good," but it makes you a normal human being—a guy with a penis.

    Hopefully that all makes sense. Get angry with porn and masturbation, but don't get angry with yourself. You're on the right track, and feeling bad about yourself will (in my opinion) only continue to lead you down the PMO path.

    If you need anything just PM me. I want to help other people while I get help for my addiction. So, feel free to hit me up!

    Blessings!
     
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  6. vctr

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    I am with you bro. It's hard but we're going to make it. I have abstinence PMO for almost 3 weeks in January but finally i relapsed because of withdrawal symptoms that i had no idea about it before starting nofap.

    Just want to make sure we are prepared for that symptoms so we can fight to passed that phase. GBU bro!
     
  7. muntasira

    muntasira Fapstronaut

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    Thanks for concerns
     
  8. muntasira

    muntasira Fapstronaut

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    Thanks so much for your help bro. we are all fighting a common enemy together, this lust that doesn't want to live us alone but there is hope in this process of recovery, we will be free eventually
     
  9. muntasira

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    See the problem is our brains is so used to PMO such that trying to quit leads to this withdrawal symptoms. But believe me we can get past this problem and grow.
     
  10. LegoT

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    Glad you're getting back on the horse. We've all been there. Relapses happen. What's important is what you learn from them. Failure is a great learning opportunity.
     
  11. muntasira

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    That is true relapses gives us the opportunity to learn from our mistakes and to grow
     

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