Coming out of my Porn Coma (Day 365)

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  1. i_wanna_get_better1

    i_wanna_get_better1 Fapstronaut

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    Only you can decide when you are ready to start dating again. Again, I would advise to NOT start a relationship with the idea of having her help you with the remnants of your addiction. Instead of focusing on a girlfriend have you considered other ways to reconnect with people who can give you the same emotional nourishment without the commitment. How is your relationship with your parents and siblings? Can you get caught up on old friendships that have been neglected? Can you make your current friendships more meaningful? Do you have room to branch out and find new friends?

    Starting off a relationship with the hopes of her helping you with the addiction can cause weird dynamics. The relationship can turn into a doctor/patient, parent/child, or worse mother/son dynamic! You have made good progress so far and it's not easy to know when to start up a new relationship. I can only point out the pitfalls and urge you to keep a firm, stable foundation to build your recovery on.
     
  2. pavloo91

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    Yeah, I don't want that, especially the mother/son part. You might be right in this case - the fact that I know that I have a problem with PMO may result in me thinking that I am somehow less than my girlfriend and making me see her as a person that is much more mature and that I should listen to. I was once in such a relationship - I felt like a child :/
     
  3. Oscarito

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    Thanks for sharing! Your post just helped me fight off the urge.

    Relapse averted!
     
  4. Fatheroffap

    Fatheroffap Fapstronaut

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    Great, great post sir. I take my hat off to you. You hit the nail right in the head. It was just what i needed to read today. Cheers!
     
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  6. Kris456

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    This is one of the most helpful posts I’ve read about fighting this battle. Thank you.
     
  7. movetointegrity

    movetointegrity Fapstronaut

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    Brilliant...thank you for this post. It resonates on every level.
     
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  8. Pikacchhu

    Pikacchhu Fapstronaut

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    Woww... Happy reading ur story!
     
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  9. zakes

    zakes Fapstronaut

    wow, congratulations on your 1 year mark!
     
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  10. FreeTheSoul

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    This paragraph of yours exactly describes why for many of us, porn addiction is one of the worst addiction to get hold of.
    At the age of 26, I have tried leaving porn many times during the year of 2017. But, the addiction version of me always gets the hold of me, as it takes only a couple of seconds to reach out to your fantasies, then boom the relapse happens.
    If I am having a slight depression, the addict me says to look for porn and all the depression will go away.
    As I am in front of a computer for 8-10 hours with high-speed internet, the fight with addiction gets even worse. It is like a boxing match with Muhammed Ali (the addiction me). It doesn't knock me out instantly but the brain slowly craves, like the light punches of Ali. Slowly the light punches get the hold of you and you get knocked out (relapse).
    Your post is truly an inspiration for someone like me, a beginner practitioner of Nofap. I will save your other posts of 30, 60, 90 days to get motivated for my upcoming battles with the addicted me. For now, "The Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step" and "If you want to change the world around you, first change yourself".
     
  11. James1986

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    Congratulations, and thank you for the advice.
     
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  12. written by someone who has been through it. Much appreciation cheers
     
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  13. Captain Rex

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    Great read! Amazing stories like this are what motivate me to do never do PMO again! Keep going brother, and crush PMO from your life like a bug ✊
     
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  14. LoyalKnight

    LoyalKnight Fapstronaut

    Really well-written, I have to say.

    I am fighting this addiction for a long time. Unlike you I did not succeed in one attempt. I am trying to quite PMO for good since September 2016.

    I had many long streaks, quite many +40 day streaks and also one of ~80 days. But I failed, and after every relapsed I relapsed so often until I felt like utter dogshit. Only after then I could rebuild a somewhat decent streak, like now. I relapsed 2-3 times in quick succession and after the last time I felt like a zombie, dead.

    Your post really motivated me.

    In strengthened my willpower to conquer this devilish addiction - that is certain.

    Thank you for this great post of enlightement!
     
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  15. Selfcontrol1

    Selfcontrol1 Fapstronaut

    Thank you for sharing you're story and all that practical wisdom. Thank you very much
     
  16. Tired Of Being Lied To

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  17. i_wanna_get_better1

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    I am still doing good. My counter has now passed 2 1/2 years. It has not been easy. I haven't been perfect, but I have not relapsed. Life will always be stressful and you can only rewire the brain so much. But it doesn't matter if you're on Day 1 or Day 1000, you still have to live life one day at a time. I'm staying busy helping others and that brings me a lot of satisfaction.
     
  18. control your life

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    great read,,,thank you for your time,,the points are spot on
     
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  19. Amazing, I started relapsing after completing 1 full year PMO free. It has been difficult, i had struggled a lot but i made it through. I am learning to think twice and to control my emotions because my emotions lead to all my relapses every single time. I feel now more in control of my mind and not the contrary. 39 days victory so far, I feel mentally stronger. i was very close to relapse last week I wanted to punish myself but i didn't give in and fought for my happiness. Your story is very inspirational, thank you :) Hope is what keeps us going! :) Sharing it with @hope breath meditate :emoji_blush::emoji_bouquet:
     
  20. Jim Michael

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    That's brilliant mate, great job.
     

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