Checking out Girls in public

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by mattl182001, Apr 17, 2019.

  1. mattl182001

    mattl182001 Fapstronaut

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    Hey guys,

    New member here with one week PMO free.

    How do you keep from checking out girls in public? For example, if I go into the gym and see an attractive woman working out I can’t help but keep glancing over. I walk in telling myself not to do it but this is one habit that seems impossible to break. I’m struggling to find alternatives or ways to stop.

    Any tips appreciated. Thanks!
     
  2. toby gee

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    Me too bro.. i tend to check out girls but we keep getting "its bad it bad"... I think checkin out girls might not be bad but looking too much and feelin some kinda sensual way when we do that is the bad part we need to break
     
  3. Talalelsayed

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    I had the same problem, i think this way a side effect of objectifying women.
    It is going away if you keep away of porn and masturbation.
     
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  4. toby gee

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    Yeah bro but you know women are beautiful and unknowingly sensual in every way.. but thats just how it has been ,, we need to stop lookin at them that way and look at them as a "sister" so to say.. or what do yall feel?
     
  5. ChangeSince95

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    It would be weird if you wouldn't stare at her..
    You're a human being not a robot
     
  6. mattl182001

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    Habits for the replies! Has anyone figured out any practical tips to change your train of thoughts in the moment. I’m trying to figure out how to build a better habit to replace with that one.
     
  7. Talalelsayed

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    For me the change was gradual and it is still getting better. may be my problem was great so i could easily feel the change with no faping. I was fantasizing any girl i see, my imaginations were very strong that i was just a step far from believing them. I needed to stare and focus "scan" the body so i can get arrouse only by imagination.
    But believe me, there is another life you will have if you stop this habbit, you need to deal with women as a human being not as an amusing subject.
     
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  8. Pine River

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    Finding (fully-clothed) women pleasing to look at is not in itself a problem. Neither is imagining dating them a problem, so long as you don't know that they already in a relationship, and there is a good chance you will eventually ask for a date. It is fantasising about having sex, and masturbating over them that are problems.
     
  9. waldek420

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    I feel like it's ok to look just as long as it doesn't fuel/trigger a porn/fapping addiction. I used to be really bad, I would have to jerk off anytime I stood in line next to yoga pants.
     
  10. Jorics

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    I don't see any issue here until you become a creep stalker or something like that
     
  11. blacklabel92

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    Man thats a hard one! I wanna just say "learn to live with it brotha!!" But thats not answering ur question. I'd say really focus and hone in on what your doing the moment u suspect that the female is too fine too not look at. Like if u have ur head phones in at the gym and u can tell the girl about to walk past u has pink leggins on and a fat ass, in that moment reeeaaaaaly hone in and focus on the lyrics and beat of the song ur listening to. I mean try and listen to every note or lyrics in the song. Or if your walking on down the street and a fine female is about to walk towards you. In that moment. Think about what your gonna eat later. Do i still got that panda express in the fridge? Do have i have to cook for myself? Should i just buy chipotle and take it home? Should i get asada or chicken? I think I've made my point. good luck!
     
  12. mattl182001

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    Thanks for those tips! Now you have me wanting some Panda Express. Haha. But I do get your point, I just have to make a Deliberate effort NOT to look and hopefully that will come second nature over time. I appreciate your response.
     
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  13. blacklabel92

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    Np man! Thats what we're here for!
     
  14. Ghost79

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    Its when you to stare at men is when you should start to get worried!
     
  15. locomia

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    Dont look at women,its obviously you ll reach sexual thoughts for more than you try to not,were all addicted here,we need to not full our minds with more noise,let the brain heal and abstain for sexual stuff...
     
  16. locomia

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    Also is useless,youre not going to even talk to her,so save energy for something better,or to do it in a future
     
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  17. Gladiatori

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    This kinda fades... but comes back.. when u r horny.. impossible to totally block givin the attire of the girls.

    Struggle here 2. lol.
     
  18. Gladiatori

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    Sometimes.. I am not horny and this doesnt phase me at all. and i can just talk 2 them like a person... but other days.. WHEN THE BABEZ DOEZ A DEADLIFT IN TIGHT PANTS AND US EE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    TIP:Use this to to extra REPZ. Testosterone will spike at this moment & ADRENALINE FILL BODY WITH ROCKET FUEL: This is sexual Transmutation. =)))))) hahahah!
     
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  19. Ghost79

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    I also allow myself to indulge my eyes on women in the gym, nothing wrong with that.
     
  20. berkiko

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    Dude you are a male. Males aroused visually. Just go talk to girls who you find attactive. Tell them they catch your eye and they are beautiful. Worst case you get rejection. Best case up to your imagine :)
     

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