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Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by mikewritesabit, Dec 31, 2017.

  1. mikewritesabit

    mikewritesabit Fapstronaut

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    Is it fair that I miss the contact I used to get from porn chat rooms?

    I'm realising these people were never my friends and just jerking off was the sole motivation... but the attention I could get and responses filled a hole in my life. I'm aware of the irony of simply shifting to posting in another chatroom, but this feels healthier.

    Anyone else miss their old porn buddies? Can you help?
     
  2. anje

    anje Fapstronaut

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    I dont miss anyone I spoke to online back when I did it. Like you say no friends to be had there. I think lonelness is a factor though. Just need to try and build more connections now in the real world
     
  3. Devil's Details

    Devil's Details Fapstronaut

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    I'm guessing here that it's more about a lack of people to be social with in your real life than anything else.

    Which sounds like a symptom of low/no social status and/or general internet addiction. Do you have any non-computer hobbies? Any clubs you can join regarding those in your area?
     
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  4. mikewritesabit

    mikewritesabit Fapstronaut

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    Hi,

    Yes... I'm trying to re-engage with friends and family, but I did honestly prefer my online community for a while. I guess I didn't spot how destructive it was until recently.
     
  5. Devil's Details

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    It's not that the people are necessarily destructive, sometimes they're more like us than the people around us, and that can be comforting.

    It's the medium that's the problem.

    The bad part is a) the inactivity is physically unhealthy, and b) humans are social animals... we need to physically be around friendly people.

    Have a look at what clubs and meeting groups there are in your area. Toastmasters and public speaking groups are really good, because they'll help you with public speaking at the same time, which will also help kick social anxiety in the teeth and build confidence talking to strangers.

    I would also recommend going to a gym. Takes up some spare time, energy, and leaves you with a more attractive body and more self-confidence.
    Don't be intimidated by all the big dudes and strange looking equipment... many of them are dying to take a new guy under their wing and show them the ropes like a big brother. Don't be afraid to ask people questions (in between their sets) about what exercises are good, how to do them, etc.
     
  6. Crimson Guard

    Crimson Guard Fapstronaut

    That was a game. Would you miss a game? Really? Man, real world is what you deserve!
     

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