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Changing a city makes me more lonely

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by Huntilt, Dec 20, 2015.

  1. Huntilt

    Huntilt Fapstronaut

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    Hi all,

    I guess this subforum is the right one to share with you what I feel. I used to live in London where I met great friends, work in an amazing company with very nice people and I met lot of new people from all around the world. Unfortunately I had to come back to France and since 6 months I been living in Paris.
    Even if i'm french myself but not a parisian, i find people here very cold, not very open and I struggling a lot to meet new people. I have the rejection feeling as the only few people i know here, each time i tried i ask them to going out they either not answering or said they are busy or 'let me know' . I don't want to be a needy person but i'm actually needy at the moment as I'm fighting against my porn addiction and can't stay at home after working 50 hours a week in a company not as good as i was in london. I miss a lot living in the UK and all my friends asked me to come back but its not as easy as i really need money and i cant leaving my job for nothing. I like the Paris life, there is lot of museum, cultures, nice place for go out and the parisian girls are just so good looking and funny. Today i came to the "hipster" area of paris in Belleville. How frustrating i felt when i saw so many coffee, terrasse, bar full of people of my age, sharing beer, laughinhg, being with their girlfriend... but unfortunately I don't see how can i met new people when i dont have one friend to introduce me other people. I know we can only count on ourself but having a hand would be much appreciated . So staying at home frustrated makes my urge back and i have twice more struggling to not PMO. I tried tinder or happn but well not a big success.
    are they some people who met the same issue than I do and how did they beat it or accept it?
    I always felt rejected even if things got better in London.

    Cheers
     
  2. JoeinUSA

    JoeinUSA Fapstronaut

    Okay, is this your version of A Tale of Two Cities? ;)

    You might just need to give it more time than 6 months living in your new city, especially if you work 50 hours per week. Once friends are established - they can introduce you to others, like you say. Do you meet anyone at work - coworkers to hang out with? You have to get involved with people and groups to meet others, as you say, and get introduced. The right girl is out there - time and circumstances just need to bring you together.
     
  3. MyNameIsX

    MyNameIsX Fapstronaut

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    Find some clubs to join. Dance classes, music groups, martial arts, sports leagues and hiking groups are all excellent places to meet people. What do you enjoy doing where you might be forced into a room with other like minded people?
     

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