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Causes Of this Addiction

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Harsh, Mar 8, 2014.

  1. Harsh

    Harsh Fapstronaut

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    Hi all,

    Sometimes we know how bad we are fu**ed up in life...& still can't give up what we are doing...I can relate my complete story with thing.

    Pornography addictions : What it caused in my life, and what things i have to go through...Frankly right now i am feeling alone. & want to get this out of my system. May be right now when i am writing this i may find the answer of my question.

    Causes : (my confession)

    1) This makes me anti social
    2) Feeling like looser
    3) I think i am being bipolar
    4) Social networking sites and friends over that makes me jealous.
    5) I think social networking sites are just mess...like there is competition.."who look good".
    6) I stopped playing TT cause i was making excuses
    7) I joined GYM but that doesn't help me.
    8) Watching porn became my routine.
    9) I dont have any so called close friend.


    Every morning when i get up, i think what the hell i am doing with life. where it is going. "I dont want to live anymore"... I am confused..

    & to overcome all these i watch porn again and again. Cause when i watch porn my mind relax i think....but that is wrong....i am messed up...I need positivity back in my life.. i want to get engaged in some work..

    Over thinking ruining me...


    That's it..!!..
     
  2. Harsh

    Harsh Fapstronaut

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    Thanks Anon

    It helped... & you stated it correctly...
    I have been thinking about many things negatively recently. & i can say it is the result of insecurities about many things. Like friendships, love, scared to be left alone...


    & frankly...after writing these lines, i feel less burden..:)
    It is like accept the facts and move on...write the facts and move on.


    Thanks..
     
  3. nkp

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    harsh bro, same happened with me. my first suggestion is to quit social networking sites . and use your computer as less as you can , and install k9 bluecoat software and ask a friend to use his email address and password. This way you will not be able to watch porn. My third advice is change your room settings, like move your bed to other side or move your study/work table etc. and start spending time with your family more and more . exercise also help (do it at evening )and you will fall asleep soon . if you understand hindi then this proverb will very beneficial for you "Khali dimag shaitan ka ghar"(An empty mind is devil's workshop). so always busy your mind with nice things; paste some quotation or some inspiration picture in your room wall . I hope soon you will be able to quit this evil habit . God Bless You
     
  4. sanchy

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    Good one. It's so true. We have to keep our minds busy with positive things so that the negative stuff doesn't creep in.
    For instance, I personally find that when I'm feeling down for whatever reason, doing one nice thing for someone else usually helps me feel better. I guess, that empathy of trying to help someone else in whatever way, helps us feel better about ourselves. It's why Jesus said: "There's more happiness in giving than in receiving".

    Try it Harsh. Find one nice thing you can do or say to someone, anyone. A compliment, a helping hand, doing something a loved one enjoys, anything.

    At the very least it'll help you forget about your own problems.
     
  5. Harsh

    Harsh Fapstronaut

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    Thank You "nkp" and "sanchy". Appreciate your help and time. I am already off to social networking sites, from that i day feel very relieved.


    Thanks again..
     
  6. zadvanceppa

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    Harsh, I have discovered that my similar feelings are caused by my pmo life too. I never went as long as I previously did when I found these sites identifying the benefits of NoFap. I knew immd. My brain still looks for excuses to relax with P M or O, but my going out at 88 days only cemented my complete belief; that if I can only grasp control of my urges; my life will improve, in so many ways. I'm not articulate with my written expression ,but many on here are and that helps me. I'm still going to post though! So, everyone is going to have to put up with it. Lol. I don't want to fail. My goal line is the rest of my life. I'm not even sure what I mean by that. I'm in my 50's so ,enough is enough for me.
     
  7. SlavenoMore

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    Harsh,

    We're in this together, brother. Install some blocking software, like K9, go to the gym, study, socialize, but before everything else, stop using porn.

    Good things happen to those that follow NO PMO!
     
  8. Harsh

    Harsh Fapstronaut

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    Thanks "zadvanceppa" and "SlavenoMore" ...i am on "NO PMO" for around 6 days..since i came here..:)..feeling relieved..

    I took full measures..:D..

    Destroyed my head phones..
    And change location of my sitting place...now sitting in drawing room only with laptop...;)
     

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