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Casual sex is as bad as porn

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Clarke, Dec 31, 2018.

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  1. Clarke

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    Perhaps the title is a tad hyperbolic, but true in spirit. What are your guys thoughts on this? I'd argue that hooking up is just masterbaition with another person's body. There's no emotional connection and the intent is not to procreate, both of which are true of porn.
     
  2. The Pacific Life

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    But does it not depend on the situation of the individuals involved? If the people are married, engaged etc. then surely it must be okay or are you referring to more like a one night stand kind of situation?
     
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  3. brilliantidiot

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    I'd say yes unless you are married.
     
  4. Clarke

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    I just mean one night stands. I'm sure sex within a marriage could be another form of masterbaition, but that would depend on a tonne of factors, whereas hook ups can be judged as a category.
     
  5. Clarke

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    Do you include all sex outside of marriage?
     
  6. The Pacific Life

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    If we are going by hookups i.e. one night stands then I suppose yes it could be. However given the choice between that and porn I think it'd be better for someone to have sex with a real person than porn at least sex is natural. No matter which way I look at it, it's a tough call. Definitely food for thought.
     
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  7. brilliantidiot

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    yep
     
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  8. Clarke

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    Why?
     
  9. Clarke

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    But is it though? Porn has its own unique problems, but having multiple partners deminishes our ability to pairbond. Not being able to pairbond would be far more destructive than having to reboot for pied.
     
  10. The Pacific Life

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    I never thought of it that way to be honest. Maybe because I'm a virgin (not sure if that has anything to do with it). But what you say does make sense. In today's hookup culture what you say does explain things.
     
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  11. Nothing wrong with having sex without any intention to procreate.
     
  12. Clarke

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    I agree, however if you don't intend to ever procreate with them, then it's just masterbaition.
     
  13. I don't think it is. Not every couple wants to have kids. A couple having sex and not having children is better than the men who want to get a woman pregnant and then leave her. Anyway, I don't think there's anything wrong with masturbation per-say.
     
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  14. brilliantidiot

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    I'm not great at explaining this kind of topic, but I'll try.....

    well, first off, we have to have sex with the intent to procreate at some point. So the q is when. I say after marriage. Before marriage, sex really does nothing except pleasure us. Might as well fap. The reason I believe sex before marriage is intrinsically wrong is that I am a Christian, and the bible tells us to wait. here is a link: https://studentsoul.intervarsity.org/why-wait
     
  15. brilliantidiot

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    maybe not, but I would say excessive lust is not a good thing. What was the last time you masturbated without lust? Possibly never?
     
  16. ultrafabber

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    Yes, casual sex is completely pointless and damages the bonding system of both individuals but especially the female's one.

    Masturbation with another person's body is a very good description.
     
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  17. I totally agree. Sex without emotional connection is as bad as porn. The true reason of the existing of sex is to bear children and in order to do so, you need a couple that is firmly bonded together over a long period of time. Nowadays, the sex has lost its true meaning and all sorts of wrong definitions are given to it.

    It's good to read posts like this, because it shows me that more people are realizing the need of emotional/spiritual connection along the physical one.

    Cheers!
     
  18. Clarke

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    I've definitely masterbaited without lust.
     
  19. TheBarbarian

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    I definitely don’t agree with this. But maybe my mind will change in 20 years.
     
  20. Going by definition I don't think lust is wrong.

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    Personally, I don't think sexual desire isn't wrong. I think when we get into debates on here about lust the person who is for lust is talking about actual lust and the other person is talking about lusts of the flesh, and really lusts of the flesh is really a reaction to Roman sexual ethics. As far as I know, lusts of the flesh isn't mentioned in the Old Testament.

    Excessive masturbation is wrong and for many here it's a problem. Maybe after a complete reboot, we can masturbate in a healthy but maybe not. I don't know really.
     

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