Can't get over my ex

You just need to move on. Do you not realize it is over?

 

By fucking other girls. Fuck the pain away.

 

You might get over her by reading a biography of every US president and watching lots of standing up comedy on YouTube.

 

You fell for her, you're human. She had good points but she's not someone you'd want to be in a relationship with, apparently.

Hell, we all became P addicts! We all make mistakes. We've just got to forgive ourselves, walk away from the bad stuff and let good things into our lives.

 

It does not sound to me like you are over her. You are still trying to make some sense and logic out of someone that you say you would not even want to be with. Someone who you say you hate and is a "piece of shit".

Hate is a strong word. It indicates to me that you have some unresolved feelings towards her.

Hate and love come from the same place... You need to forgive... Yourself and her if you can...

Only after you forgive yourself for dating that piece of shit and forgive her for not being the person you thought...

Then you will be able to move on and love again...

Like I said, hate and love come from the same place...

 

Yup. Indifference is actually the opposite of love, not hate.

 

When I went through a breakup I just immersed myself into work and then also got a rebound girl. Of course it isn't the best solution, but I tell you it 100 percent beat pining over an ex while staring at the walls at home.

 

Time will settle what your feeling. It's still new and current. It's normal to be hung up on it and keep revisiting the topic looking for a possibility for it to be renewed. Or if not that a resentfulness towards that person. Just focus on you

 

2 months is nothing, it's about 20 months when my ex broke my heart and i still think often about her...damn...

 

It takes time. How much time depends on you and the relationship. It is a bit like grief; your dreams and future died. One break up almost cost me my job and took a couple of years to be ready to reenter the hunt. It is a chance to better understand yourself and the art of building a relationship. In my misery, I made some big changes, I expanded my horizons, and I grew emotionally, so my wife got a far better man than my gf dumped.
In some cultures there is more group socializing among singles, I think that would help speed recovery.
Best of luck with your recovery.

 

I think that's what it is with every guy that finally finds the girl for him , and does everything right only to be destroyed by this manipulative , lying person. It's not so much as the break up but it's how they go about doing so, and you're stuck without even an explanation

 

Keep climbing to the top with abstinence. I think it's best that you guys have some distance apart. If you guys come in contact, I highly doubt things will repair itself. Only time will heal. Who knows? Abstinence will enable you to reach a higher state of mind to combat your thoughts on this issue. According to Steven R. Covey's 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, most of us are reactive -- we react to everything. The goal should be to be Proactive: keep yourself busy, occupied, moving onto the next thing in life. Think about your next goal in life.

Don't waste time on this anymore, because if it gives you anxiety where your thoughts keep running into intersections, it won't make you any happier because your emotions keep going back and forth. Your emotions have to run in a linear motion. It's a one-way street for you, not a 2 way intersection where she commits to an action and you react back-and-forth. Don't wait, move, move ahead because you'll regret all of this if you keep thinking about her.

Don't worry about her if she's a piece of shit. Let that be her problem, or, the next guys problem. You have to worry about yourself, bro. If you keep on thinking of this logic to think of what a piece of shit she is, you'll only hate yourself more because only a piece of shit would recognize another piece of shit. So, if you're better than this (which I imagine that you truly are), then move forward. If you even think about letting her comeback, think about what you said about her, "she's a piece of shit." Flush it down the toilet and move-on.

Don't waste your time being passive-aggressive if you guys do come in contact. Just end it short on a polite note, be respectful and remind her that you have things to take care of. If she wants to talk about it, you have things to take care of. You don't need to be reminded of the things that make you upset.

Keep it together.

 

the what ifs are exhausting and tempting as well. i've seen such women who can be snappy and they are terrible.
i now stay away from such people. i avoid making new friends.

the less the better.