Can men cry?

I think that it's okay for men to cry since I feel like that this persona of being tough and non-emotional is bullshit. I've wept and cried so much that I could make a list for you all, but that would be a bit boring. My point is that men should cry since it's such a good stress, anxiety, and pain reliever in a natural way.

 

cry now. eventually emotions die out as you grow stronger

 

It is okay to cry but I can tell that you have some of the same problems that I used to have. You say that you feel like your friends don't know you. Well it could be that you just don't know yourself...… because you don't know yourself that person that your friends see in you, you cannot recognize.

 

You can but you should try to avoid it, giving up to sadness will only bring more of sadness.

 

Whether you think you can or you think you cant, you are right. Because you are the only one in control of your own life. You are the only one whose responsible for your own self.

These people we look up to, who are setting goals and smashing them, who have genuine connections and purpose, they are just as imperfect as you and i. They struggle with self doubt and insercurities just like you and i do. They feel sad and dissapointed and overwhellemed and scared Just Like You And I do! But they do it anyway, they keep trying dispite all that.

Heres what helps me deal with overwhellming negative emotions, and you can try it if you want:-
1.) Cry when you feel like crying.
2.) Stop making yourself feel bad for feeling negative emotions. Lets say everytime you felt low there was someone who would make you feel even worse and say hurtful things to you, would you ever go to them again for comfort? No. Because you wouldnt trust them with your dark bits because you would know they will just make you feel worse. Dont be that person towards yourself. You need to be able to feel safe in your own company, and be able to soothe and comfort your own self, because honestly no one else will ever be able to do that for you.
3.) Once youve had a good cry, ask yourself why you feel how you feel. Think about how you want to feel instead and then identify what things you can do that'll help you get there.

Setting small goals and reaching them is a Huge confidence booster.

I heard something that really touched my heart and i want to share it with you:-

"Some people think that in order to believe in yourself and to be fearless you gotta have big balls, you need to believe in yourself with everything you have, but all you really need is just faith the size of a mustard seed, not the whole packet. Just a little enough faith to entertain the thought of things being better. Just a little to have hope that things will turn out in your favour. You just need a little faith in your self, that is a good start."

So set small goals and reach them, in time you'll see youre just as capable as anyone else.

You'll be okay, okay. Dont give up on yourself.

 

Thanks for the beautiful reply
Kudos!!

 

Correct...

 

I strongly disagree. Sadness and happiness are two sides of the same coin. You literally can't have one without the other. If you felt happy all the time, why would we even have a word for it? Wouldn't feeling happy be indistinguishable from merely existing if you never felt sad?

I don't think it's healthy to suppress negative-feeling emotions (including sadness). That's why I got into using porn in the first place: to suppress negative feelings.

You can't appreciate warmth if you've never been cold.
You can't appreciate comfort if you've never felt pain.
You can't appreciate company if you've never been alone.
You can't appreciate peace if you've never been in danger.
You can't appreciate happiness if you've never been sad.

When I feel sad, I just let it happen. If I cry, I let the tears come out. If I feel sad, I give into it. I know it will pass eventually, and that I'll feel better when it's over.