Can Men and Women be Friends?

So you have 2 female friends and you are asking whether is it possible to have female friends.
Well, ok. I think it is possible.

 

If all involved expect and want to be platonic friends, yes - definitely -- and it is healthy.

 

Here's a quote from this other other thread http://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/sex-does-not-take-away-loneliness.51343/

Nothing wrong with having female friends. Trust me, its a lot better than being lonely.

 

Friend is a subjective term so take your concept of friend and if they meet that requirement they are friends . The people you are talking to may already have their definition of friend as with the same gender thus see them as unable to be your friend solely by definition or any number of reasons.

 

To be honest, you have to figure out what being a friend means first, before you call anyone your friend. I hang out with people, but I wouldn't call them my friends. Whereas there are people who I know are busy, but I call them my friend.

 

I mean if you've known them that long - and there's no physical/sexual attraction on the part of any of you for the others, it's possible. But unless that's the case, it's just going to mess with peoples' minds.

 

Yes men and women can be friends. There is a very high chance though that one party will develop feelings. I know for me if I am attracted to a girl it is hard for me to just be friends with her.

 

No disrespect to your family, but in my opinion what they've said is absolute nonsense. At the end of the day, we're all just humans- men, women, it doesn't matter. You should be able to call anyone you like your friend (if you feel it appropriate and they are reciprocating etc). I have female friends and get on just as well with them as I would with one of the boys. It shouldn't matter if you're sexually attracted to the same gender as some of your friends. We're all just people, who want to enjoy ourselves in the company of others.

 

Interesting question indeed. IMO, yes male and female can become just friend. And in my country culture, sometimes it is best to leave at that, because when you add romanticism then problem start to happen. When one of you start having the feeling and is not reciprocal, then be prepared to lose your female friend. my true story, but might not happen to you though.

 

I agree that men and women can be friends, but it can be complicated by sexual feelings

 

Situation: One person meets another person and they enjoy their time together.
They want to fuck each other -> They are sexual partners.
They don't want to fuck each other -> They are friends.

What gender are they? It does NOT matter.

Guys can develop sexual attraction to guys and girls, the same goes for girls. Saying something like "you can't be friends, you're supposed to fuck each other" is at least sexist, ridiculous and retarded as a point of view of today's society.
You need to be honest to the other person about what you feel and that's it, it's a binary decision, you either want or don't want sex.
With how society has turned out today, you can't even be sure that your buddy, your best friend, the guy that you know from elementary school, doesn't want to secretly have sex with you. And you're a dude and never even got suspicious about it.

 

i would rather just have friends, to just be friends, that s ruins the quality friendship sometimes, it changes things. but that's just me.

 

Well...I wouldn't say that it's impossible to have female friends, but I believe that it's improbable. Your family members are right are based upon the sexual motive. Since you don't hang out with them as much as "normal" friends do, you can be acquaintances. Use them to find other girls that you could fuck, or stop being around them all together.

I know that what I say might be heavy-handed, but it's the truth. If you really want to deny it, be that way. But, if you are interested why this is the way that it is, read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. He breaks it down very well, from an evolutionary and societal standpoint. I promise you, reading this book will change you for the better

 

I would quote this twice and repeat to the "so called" women at my workplace after they have observed me talking to a women, thinking i am conversing just to sow my seed. Some women are so retarded its ridiculous!

 

They can be friends. But they don't because they think they can't be friends.
If you tell yourself "We can't be friends, this friendship will become relationship" all time, that will become relationship.
But it is different then m-m friendship.

That idea is a problem. I can't talk to females because I am afraid. I think they think I am not there for friendship. And they think!

 

What do men and women even have in common?