CAN I CREATE IMAGINARY GIRLFRIEND?

Fantasy isn't helpful. It causes more problems than it solves.

 

I don't know what kind of computer skills you actually have, so to answer your question "can I create an imaginary gf?" Is not so simple.

The boys in the 1980's flick Weird Science did a crash, bang job of it, and we see how that turned out.

Toddlers often have imaginary friends. So I suppose delusional adults can have imaginary girlfriends. The problem with an imaginary girlfriend is the love isn't real, the bed remains cold, and conversation is so one-sided. The relationship will do little for your self esteem, and may set you back.

I suggest orbitting back down to reality and experience life as it was meant to be lived. Become the better you, quit making excuses, and enjoy what hard work and diginity rewards you with.

Best of luck.

 

I think what you are looking for is a "waifu". I have no experience with that

 

I'm being truthful here and opening myself to ridicule but I don't give a F anymore, I hope I can help.

I tried this. I had a porn actress that I really liked to watch and decided to make her my imaginary girlfriend. I'd write out letters to her in my journal. Talk to her picture before starting the day or going out on a trip. And I'd PMO with her in mind.

Then I realized how pathetic I had become. (I'm speaking about me, pointing the finger at me, calling out my behavior. Don't take this personal in anyway). I still felt lonely and if anyone had caught me doing it they'd say I was crazy.

My advice is not to go in that direction. As I type about it now looking back, I was certainly going off the rails. Are there non-sexual things you enjoy doing? Spend time reading up on those things and get involved in them. Try to find and do things that are not about sex.

 

Nope. Just nope. It’s not solving your main issues. Join some group of people with similar interests and learn to make friends.
Ask them about themselves and let them talk. And really listen to them. Once you genuinely find them interesting they will likely ask about you.

 

I just sent a note in the section “Conversations” you can respond there if you like.

 

It’s not bad. It’s just sad. You need to live in the real world to be happy. Human contact makes you human. If you create this girl you will probably substitute that for real life.

 

Hmm... reminds me of a song from the Bloodhoundgang

 

To be honest with you, i don't think you are ready for a relationship right now. If i were you then i would spend my time working on myself and on the social anxiety. I had social anxiety as well and while it made me feel lonely and longing for a romantic relationship i knew it wasn't the best idea at the time. I spend 2 good years working on myself and now i find myself free from a lot of the issues i was facing before. At the moment i feel more then ready for a relationship but somehow i just don't really care so much anymore, i am fine by myself.

Creating an imaginary girlfriend is only gonna make matters worse i'm afraid. It will distract you from the real world and making real connections with real people. It will just slow down the process of your recovery because you substitude healing yourself with distracting yourself.

It'll take time and self improvement is a hard road, i won't lie. When i look at myself from 2 years ago i'm so glad i made the choice to walk on it. Things will get better buddy, just hang in there and don't give up. The fact that you are on NoFap already says a lot and you already took a big step

Do you have any siblings, cousins or anything? Maybe you can hang out with them and go to public places. If they are social and know about your problem maybe they can help you get out there and introduce you to some people. And btw, with social anxiety just take small steps at a time. You don't have to hold long conversations with strangers from the get go. Start by saying hello to a person that you cross on the street, then go from there. Give yourself time and don't hate yourself when something doesn't go the way you planned it. Its a process bro.

Big up yourself!

 

I apologize for misunderstanding the situation. I think its for the best when you talk to someone about the childhood issues, usually they are very deep inside of us and shape the way we deal with and react to situations as an adult. Its also possible to work through them by yourself but some outside help can speed things up. Are you able to speak about this subject with your parents? Since they are the ones who were involved with it. Talking about it can be a big relief.

The addiction to thinking.. I can relate to some degree as i did it in the past but it won't nearly come as close to someone with OCD, so i don't think that the things i used will work equally as well for you. I don't know if you're into reading but a book that has helped me a lot is ''The power of now'' by Eckhart Tolle. It goes into great detail about being present in the moment and not get stuck in your mind thinking about past / future. I would reccomend this book to anyone.

I think the anxiety also stems back from a desire to escape the present moment. The more present you are the less anxiety and other problems you will have.

To make friends with people you have to make time to build a relationship. The main thing is showing genuine interest in them i would say. Listen to what they have to say and look for commen interests. Usually you can pick up after conversing for a bit if someone is a potential friend or not. Its important to not only share what you want to say but also give them a chance to speak. Ask them questions etc. people always love to talk about themselves when someone asks. Then in turn they will most likely appreciate you for your interest and ask you about yourself as well. Forums is also a great way to make friends and a good place to start at.

 

I went down this route before several years ago, it wasn't worth it. I completely felt even more like crap because I had to create a woman in my mind instead of meeting one irl. I wouldn't recommend it.

 

Having an imaginary girlfriend, is a really bad idea. You think PMO is bad, this is an even worse idea. It will make you weird, and drive you insane. I agree with what other people have said, you are not ready for a girlfriend yet. My advice would be to go right back to basics. You need to learn how to communicate with people, and make friends first. You should work on your image, self and anxiety.

YouTube can help you with a lot of this stuff. Find a good dating coach. Watch videos on communication, body language and social skills. Watch TED talks. You also need to leave the house and interact with people so it does not feel alien to you. Your aim should not be to make friends yet, just get used to socializing with strangers. When you feel you are ready then go to Meet ups, its an easy way to meet new people and make friends.

If that is still challenging for you then you can try apps. This is a very good app for meeting people https://www.tandem.net/ It's for learning languages but really a lot of people use it for making friends and dating. I have made a lot of friends on there, its easy. And then you can always use all of the other popular dating apps too. But first work on your social skills before you do anything otherwise you will just come across as awkward.

 

you could buy a sex doll? how would that make you feel? bad? Well of course because it isn't a real person same goes for creating a fantasy girfriend.