Called an escort and got robbed...

Well, I had sex with two prostitutes before, so I can understand where you're coming from.

You're basically reading too much into it. How do you know she found you 'unattractive' this is just your own insecurities projected onto someone else.

In some countries they actually have prostitution rings where women look for passive men, proposition them for sex, then their pimps come round and rob them. Gotta be careful.

That being said, seeking prostitutes is a lowly game, done by lowly Johns who should really just figure out what it takes to attract women or drop their standards.

 

You may or may not be right. The point is you'll never know if she found you unattractive. Women who get into prostitution are used to being 'used.'

For their bodies of course. Sure we see it as a transaction, but hey would you sell your body to a fat ugly girl? No you would not, you got robbed, but you're doing something unethical so you can't expect too much.

I get what you mean about companionship - I've never had a gf. But we have three choices, reduce our standards, improve ourselves, or seek prostitution.

 

Hawx, your fear of this hooker not finding you attractive is neurotic. It's not as crazy as the guys who think the hookers are attracted to them or like them, but it's still neurotic. That withered 80 something walking corpse Hugh Hefner has a whole Harem of girls that have sex with him. Hookers [whores] are scammers who will try to take you for anything they can.

I don't recommend hookers, but if you do, don't pay up front. I would not deal with someone who comes with a chauffeur [ escort], etc. Discretion is important and you don't want some guy in a car parked out front for an hour, or have some guy in the other room while you do your business. It's a buyers market. May sound cold, but you can't let people rip you off, and you're way to negative about yourself.

 

Are you deformed, or more than likely just some run of the mill looking guy? Escorts are almost never attracted to the client. Brad Pitt could get ripped off by a prostitute. They will almost always rip you off if they think they can. As well if it means making money there are women who will bang donkeys and various other animals, some do it just for kink. If it was just your looks then she could have said "I don't want to have sex with you", or went to the car without taking your money. You got victimized and you're trying to blame it on yourself.

Is prostitution legal where you are? If so report her to the cops[she is a criminal]. You're letting shame weaken you, and this whore is taking advantage of it. If it is illegal, at least try to leave bad comments about her on any review and make sure you don't pay up front if you ever do it again.

The "acting" like real bitches probably isn't an act.

 

maybe she was 'doing you a favor'
look at the bright side, you don't want to do it any more.

 

Wow thats is brutal, go to police for sure. I thought some time about going to one hooker with goods looks, but as im reading more stories about hookers ill come to conclusion thats its not worth it.

 

^^The above is a fantasy. You know this, she knows this... Essentially, this is not a 'Pretty woman' movie. Things like that do NOT happen in real life. Any girlfriend experience you have will be forced on her part. She will think of you, for what you are. Essentially, a useless man, looking to simply get off.

It's OK man, we've all been there. The truth is, you're not some pathetic loser who can't get women. You're just some loser who doesn't accept ugly girls or girls in your league and wants more than you're entitled to. And you'll do anything to get it including paying for it.

^^Please don't take the above as me being a pretentious judgemental prick... As I've done what you've done.

Look, let's be honest. You want a girlfriend, you want to be loved, you want to feel a mutal - shared attraction. You're simply going about it the wrong way.

It's like having a broken leg and going to the grocery store to get a diagnosis when you should be going to the doctor.

Accept this^^ and you can move on to things that you want.

 

I remember my second experience...

"I knocked on her door, she smiled at me and let me in. I rushed inside cautious of too many other people seeing me. We shook hands and I made her do a little twirl. She giggled like a little girl. I said I like what she had done with the place it was cosy. Then we got down to talking 'business.'

I was nervous as fuck, not because of her, she was gorgeous, the girl I could only dream on in real life - it was because of what I was about to do. A few years younger than me, smaller, petite. She looked at me and said is this your first time. I laughed and said, what do you mean today?

Then I had that look, you know, like a predator eyeing up his prey. I said as she was doing her stuff, can you look me in the eye! As she was running her hands up my navel, I didn't even touch or hold her, I just wanted to get off. It was purely a one way thing.

It was easily the most amazing experience in my life. When it was over, I asked a few questions. I wasn't her first customer of the day, that was evident by the condoms in the bin.

Then it hit me, this girl could have been my sister. She was great looking, how the fuck did she end up in this situation. She should be out at uni getting drunk, fooling around, worrying about makeup/exams girly things. Instead she was here in this shit hole. "

I put myself in her shoes, realising what I'd done. I can't go back.

Everything you think you're doing and getting is a lie, but you can move forward dude.

 

I was thinking the same thing. If she put you off visiting escorts forever, she probably did you the biggest favour.

To the OP -- I wouldn't beat yourself up because of the way an escort looked at you. You have to remember that to them this is just a job. She's reluctantly having sex every single day with guys she doesn't really care about. Looking at it that way, it probably wouldn't matter if you were Brad Pitt, she'd probably still be disgusted.

 

That sucks dude. Should be a wake up call though. This should motivate you to make a lifestyle change. I used to want sex really bad and contemplated trying to buy it, but it is only the same hollow satisfaction as porn. To find happiness and be content make positive life style changes like nofap and healthy eating and I promise you you will gain a whole new perspective on life. But all of this is just advice do whatever the fuck you want to do.

 

Is there anyting u could to improve ur looks or ur confidence? Maybe u should try to focus on that. I'm pretty sure u are not as bad as u think. We tend to amplify things when we are on some shit like that. And like it has been said, do not blame yourself. U don't know if she pulled it of with some other random guy. I think u should focus on descovering why u think so little of yourself and try to work on that.

 

Just to give two cents on an issue that I keep seeing on @Hawx79 posts. You have a huge confidence issue. Consider this question, Why do jerks get all the girls? A lot of us have wondered about that for a long time and some never get the answer. Jerks have an over confidence about themselves and girl and women will run to that. This is the same reason some ugly guys will get women way out of their league. I promise you that you are not as ugly as you think you are but I can guarantee you they can tell that you don't have confidence in yourself. If you can't confidently look a woman in the eyes that you have never met and just have a conversation with her you will never get a girlfriend. If you are here on the nofap forum I am going to assume you have a problem with porn and masturbation. Enough porn can produce this problem of low self esteem while at the same time thinking highly of yourself. You can find plenty of woman that find you attractive, but you have a huge confidence issue my friend. But plenty of people on here do as well. @Hawx79 do you look at a lot of porn?

 

Ok just because you are looking at vanilla or "not hardcore" porn doesn't mean you aren't being effected. It is effecting your confidence. And girls can see low confidence from a mile away and instantly you are not a potential mate to them. The problem is the release of dopamine, all porn releases dopamine in your brain at higher levels. Just because you may not always masturbate to porn doesn't mean it isn't effecting your brain. I promise you, that you will have a new outlook on life if you stop the porn. Your looks have nothing to do with you not getting a girl. But you are using what you think are your looks as a "crutch" to look at porn. You are using it to rationalize your reasons why it is ok. You need to learn more about this addiction and what it does to your brain. If you have other questions you can PM me. You don't need a dating coach either. In my opinion it will be a waste of money. Do you have any social anxiety?