Breakups

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The grief of a broken relationship can affect you in a variety of ways. About 1/3 of the way through my first year of teaching, I got dumped and had nobody I could talk to about it. I crashed. You do not want to do that. Fapping is an also ran on a list of top ten problems.
If you see difficulties in your relationship, it may be worth working on them and rebuilding your relationship.
Dating doesn't have to be a bootcamp for divorcing.

 

Hi Tom,

Sorry to hear about the breakup. I've just recently ended a relationship as well and want to congratulate you on having the foresight to recognize the possible triggers which lay ahead of you. There are some key things I remind myself daily in order to avoid PMO:

1. This breakup is an opportunity for me to practice self-improvement not self-destruction.
2. PMOing after a breakup and as a result of a breakup still gives my ex power over me.
3. Pain and lonilenss are only enemies if I'm an enemy to myself.
4. I'm worth more than PMO.
5. Lifting heavy weights is a great way to release anger.

 

Hey buddy.

I'm actually going through the same thing at the moment. The ups and downs that come with thinking about my recent relationship are a whole other level of difficulty which we need to not let infringe on our discipline, not only to break free of this pmo hell but also move on with our lives.
On a daily basis simply try to override negative thoughts with constructive and positive thinking, I think as much as training and strengthening your will to avoid pmo you will train your mind to tip the balance in favour of you in the NOW and not what you HAD with her in the past. Hope that makes sense.

Considering that what you can have with someone you love emulates an addiction, pmo obviously fitting the description of addiction also, you are effectively trying to shake TWO big addictions now. Be kind to yourself. Just keep thinking, keep thinking, keeeeep thinking about the great future ahead of you, and that you WILL master your life.