Breaking things off

Greetings,

Things aren't going so well for my partner and me right now. I think I've reached my limit point, and I'm most likely going to break things off soon. I don't feel comfortable going into too much detail about the reasons why (mostly out of respect for her own privacy), but suffice it to say that she has a personal problem that I don't think I can support her through any longer. Basically, I'm just coming to the realization that many aspects of our relationship are not sustainable in the long-term. It's not related to porn or my own addiction.

I guess I'm posting here for two reasons: the first is that I need some support as an individual. I've been in this relationship for almost three years now and this is a person I love very much, so this has not been an easy process for me at all and is bound to get worse before I start to feel better. The second reason is that, while porn is not part of the reason things are going this direction, I'm afraid of it being there as an option for coping with the pain I'll be going through. I have made so much progress in my recovery since I first joined this community, and I don't want to relapse back into my old habits.

Has anyone here had any experience with balancing a huge change in your relationship with your recovery? Any tips to offer in that domain?

 

Thanks. I think a lot of it will be immersing myself in other things. No easy way out of this situation, pretty much

 

I'm glad to hear you guys were able to work things out. I don't think my relationship was really at that stage yet. We had been together for a few years, but we never moved in together and we weren't married.

That's good advice. It's important to remember why I want to stay sober in the first place. I'll definitely think all of that over, write about it in my journal, and talk about it with my therapist.