It's no secret, or should I say it shouldn't be, I have issues with Bitter Root Judgments & Bitter Root Expectations. A Bitter Root Judgement occurs when you have perceived that you have been wronged, and then when you have been wronged enough, you have a Bitter Root Expectation. For example, if I have been betrayed in relationships multiple times, I have come to expect to be betrayed in a relationship. If you have been lied to in a relationship often enough, you come to expect to be lied to in a relationship. I'll come back to this in a moment. I'm writing this message, partly as a learning opportunity and partly as a VENT. And if the person reading this thinks it is about them, and you know who you are, you're right. And that's OK, because you told me "...Leave me the fuck alone...I'm not going to ask you again" All I had to hear that, was ONCE (ironic considering you have to ask someone the first time to "...ask you again..."). Because at the end of the day, unlike my previous life as a PMO Addict, I respect Boundaries no matter what. If they want/care to talk about it, they can come back and ask for it, for I refuse to violate that Boundary. As others can testify, I have done that on numerous occasions (talk about it) for people who I have pissed off. And let's be clear, I have pissed many addicts off. Yesterday was a most frustrating day for me because I was totally baffled by what was unfolding and going on. And the individual who brought it to my attention, bless his heart, I think it really shook him up. It was the weirdest thing I had ever experienced here. I'm going to stop short of saying "crazy" because God knows, so many of you have been led to believe you are crazy. And you're not. We have made you crazy. Besides, that would be Gaslighting, and I'm not going to contribute to it. I'm not going to call them out by name, quite frankly, because I will forever and always uphold that honesty, integrity, and confidentiality that I so preach about. I have my PT to thank for that, along with "Truth is Freedom" and she is a source of strength and quite a beautiful resource that I can bounce stuff off of. And she provides me with incredible resources if I need them for someone. I can't speak for someone who makes a flying leap from one view of a person to a completely different one in what amounts to a moment. But as our addiction flourishes, we become so very good at covering our tracks, that when you do discover something, you are so taken aback and so shocked, you just don't even know where to turn. It makes you "gun shy". And that's the cruel reality of addiction. If anybody in here thinks that I am anything other than what they see in what I publish, I cannot help that. That's on you. I'm not going to waste my time defending it as it is a very unproductive use of my time. I am, and always will be, the person you see me post as until such time I am convinced that what I am posting is wrong. And then I'll change it. So, why am I posting this message? Yesterday on here marks the single most weirdest day of misunderstanding bar none. I'm just flabbergasted by it. Initially, I was like WTF is going on. Then I was angry. Then I wanted to understand it. Now I am at peace with it. That's what 24 Hours of "shelving it" does for you. I choose not to let it bother me or affect me. A) Because it's not true and B) Because we "Accept the things we cannot change". I will continue to help people, including this person if they so choose, because at the end of the day, that's the person I have become as opposed to the person I used to be. I'm going to heed my own advice and take the high road no matter what it cost me. That's what forgiveness looks like, and it's something I need to practice more than anything. I've talked about how resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. I'm not drinking the poison. Be careful what you wish for. Be careful the conclusions you jump to. For your Bitter Root Judgments will likely, like that of my own, turn into Bitter Root Expectations. I'm here to tell you, when you choose to believe in your "Gut Instincts", your "Women's Intuition", your "Sixth Sense" or whatever you choose to call it, you better be sure that you have your "I's" dotted and your "T's" crossed, your facts straight, for you might just be making a huge mistake you cannot change. I have learned not to hold grudges as I've learned not to judge people. I knew something was amiss when you said "...leave me the fuck alone..." Well, there ya go. I will "leave you the fuck alone". But as you stand alone, I wish you nothing but the very best. That is my hope and prayer for you. Like everyone else, I will forever and always be there for you as well, even as I am crucified for doing nothing less than the right thing. Because that's in line with WWJD! And that's what genuine healing looks like. Have a Happy New Year Everyone!