Binging on every relapse

@mindthrow50 don't lose hope. Look just do certain things like find an accountability partner, go for a jog, find a new hobby, start socializing and being with people and away from technology, analyze your past to determine if their is a link between anything in your past and your current addiction.

 

It's easier said that done but we must remember our pmo problems are all in our head fundamentally.
The degree of change lies in the degree of control we have.
Take things one step at a time. Sometimes trying to beat every aspect of addiction at once just gives more stress to achieve more in one go and greater despair if we fail.
It took me a year to relax myself into this whole thing, and now I find abstaining for longer periods easier.
Also when you do relapse try to keep rational thought in control. Just restrict yourself to one MO.

It's all about consciousness and self awareness dude.

 

Before I seriously attempted to quit PMO, I would do the same thing and waste hours and hours browsing. Edging like that really pumps up your dopamine... it's like the thrill of the hunt. When I realized it was a problem, I started putting a time limit on myself.

By all means, do everything in your power to NOT give in to those urges, but if you slip up, it's much worse if you binge. I think this is called the "chaser effect" if I remember correctly. So for example, let's say you do find yourself relapsing. Look at the time and limit your session to only an hour or something like that. I didn't feel quite so set back when I would do this. Like Star Lord said, it's definitely about self awareness. You can't let yourself slip into that primal state where you no longer have control.

 

I agree with the above--I also have used the 1-MO only and 1-hour rules when I did slip up. Limiting the damage I think can be an important piece of recovery.

Educating yourself on the costs might help--a binge with a lot of edging (not MO) is what you don't want when you're trying to break free. Personally, after my last "good" binge I wrote myself a letter the day after describing in detail exactly how I was feeling. I read it many times afterwards; it was a great reminder of why I didn't actually want to do there again. Even when I slipped up after that, I never binged again. And I've been building up more strength from there.

Like the others said, you can absolutely do it if you hang in there and learn from the missteps of the past. Good luck to you.