The alpha male is seen as a good idea of a sexy attractive man and it is. Submissive girls will easily fall for that kind of guy. Charismatic, outgoing, and assertive. But I find myself to be the beta male type with a youth like idealism. It's like I want to do what I feel like doing and fuck stereotypes. It turns out that the dominant girls turn their heads towards me. I feel like both types are equally valuable. Men and women both exist as alphas and betas. So I'd say don't worry if you find in your recovery that you're not that popular idea of alpha. You just have a different way of doing life that's more beta like me. And the talkative girls may take notice. Curious about your individuality and calmness.