Besides working out what is everyone transmuting thier sexual energy into ?

Transmuting my sexual energy? I have no idea because I don't know what transmuting means. Sexual energy is life energy - isn't it? So the same energy that keeps me breathing and my heart beating. And if I am having the right focus I can feel this energy as joy and love inside my heart. So simple: feeling the inner beauty, feeling my heart. You may call it transmuting, I call it to be happy. Not being happy about something- but just being happy. This was the reason I came into this world. And it feels so good.

 

Working out is #1 for me, lol. But I'm also transmuting by budgeting all my income with saving/debt freedom goals, studying Scripture, and going to social activities rather than staying home whenever possible.

 

I workout I play music and while these things help keep me from getting bored or depressed they can be a distraction they don't release "sexual energy". Having gone long periods of time without fapping [ not lately] once you've broken the habit for a while the desire " sexual energy" dissipates. There may still be things that trigger it, there are in my case, but the constant nagging goes away. JMO.

 

I don't understand this "sexual energy" concept. You believe you are constantly generating sexual energy that must be channelled somewhere or you'll explode?

In my experience, sexual desire is less of an unstoppable force and more like a fire - fan the flames with thoughts and fantasies and it grows, sometimes out of control; but control it and contain it and it can be reduced to gentle embers, to lay dormant until legitimately needed (in a loving partnership). Not that I'm a master of the second way, but I'm doing pretty well trying. It certainly makes life easier than if I believed I need to run around entertaining the bratty energetic child that is "sexual energy".

 

In my studies I suppose. But for the most part I don't. I don't even exercise right now. At this time I just let it dissipate.

No, you won't explode if you won't channel it anywhere. It's just that you probably gonna be more horny than you otherwise would, if you would channel it into something else. But to that state too we eventually adapt, so it's only a problem while our energy is still building and we are not used to levels being so high. Or maybe simply don't have enough control yet to not throw any thoughts and fantasies in a fire. Otherwise our body takes all the energy it needs and can safely store and rest will dissipate or possibly no extra will be made, only as much as we use. Or sometimes it will overflow and exit with force, such as wet dream or an attack of anger, especially if we are still not adapted to high levels. It's like our carrying bag needs to be stretched. And it takes a while.

So if one has trouble dealing with such things as anger or wet dreams I think transmutation can be beneficial. Also, we have all this energy so why not use it for something good? Instead of just letting it dissipate or discard itself via wet dreams or emotions, or keeping it dormant. It's free motivation and creativity. All tho of course nothing wrong with not using it either. Just like with food, just because it's there does not mean we have to ate it. But it's nice to be able to.

 

And you suppress it. Hold it back. That never works. Think of energy like flowing water; you have to either channel it or release it. Or else it will just build up until it brakes what's holding it back with force, like a broken dam. And the more anger you suppress the stronger it will come back later. Because it accumulates like flowing water. So one thing is obviously sexual transmutation to channel energy flow.

Another is to release it when it comes and in a form it comes. You have to feel it out. Instead of channeling you release it. Which you did in a bus. But the trick is to feel it out without getting triggered by it. And that's something you can't do through willpower. You can do it through meditation though. I would really suggest you to check it out. I have a link in my signature to free eBook on mindfulness meditation, if you're interested.

 

I think you guys are making things harder for yourself by believing your raging libido is inevitable. It isn't. It has gotten this raging because you have fostered that within yourself by focusing on sex in your mind and habits. And lessening its power isn't "suppressing" it. Refocusing your mind towards more worthy foci will let your sex drive calm down, but if you believe it "must be put to use or it will come out in wet dream or relapse" you're giving it more power again. And you allocate even more power to it when you act like it's this divine life force that motivates you! Stop empowering the sex drive and start empowering the other drives within - the drive to help others, to be excellent, to do good in the world, to learn, to give. These are much more noble motivational energies to spur you on in life.

 

I agree 100%. The problem however is that for many of us it's not that easy to get rid of old habits and thought patterns. We all are different though. So it might come very easy for you. I know it's not for me. All though it is miles better than it used to be and slowly still getting better, it will be a little while until I can stop making that sexual energy.

There really isn't such thing. It's all the same energy expressing itself in different ways. Personally I don't feel like glorifying one expression of the divine and demonizing other expression of the divine. The trick is learning to use those different types of same energy in our favor instead of letting them use us. You seem to see lust as something negative, which is understandable because it has probably created some pain in your life, like for most of us on this forum. But that is just a subjective judgement of your mind which is created from your experience. Really it's just energy, it's neutral. Not good and neither evil. Again, I like the metaphor of water. It can destroy cities or it can be used to create electricity and nourish food to empower thousands of people. It's just natural phenomenon.

 

Music. The purest, holiest, most primal and universal language.

 

Producing Music, Meditation, Reading, Softball,Basketball,Boxing, NoFap.com

 

Yoga, meditation, writing, singing, drawing...

 

My job and videogames. I know, drowning in videogames is not right because I could spend more time in many healthier ways but this is what I do for now, and it works. It's not like I'm "transmutating my sexual energy", I just manage not to think about PMO

 

I enjoy working with computers and technology in general, so that's what I try and keep my energy geared toward to.

 

I like this one. Visiting escorts has got me into debt. Now I'm working off my debt by working lots of hours at work.

 

Reading, video games and work. Plus workout of course. Simple things that keep you entertained. Oh not to forget, movies and series.

 

Daily goals like meditation & exercise. Before I had them I'd get all tingly & horny after like 2 weeks of nofap then relapse. Haven't noticed that this time around.