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Being gay and muslim and trying to reboot is like hell

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by JoeYo, Aug 18, 2017.

  1. JoeYo

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    It's okay bro, at least you took the time to read and comment and trying to help, i appreciate that.
     
  2. JoeYo

    JoeYo Guest

    Thank you man. I'm moving forward one day at a time, some days are harder than others, i just hope i won't slip and do something that i will deeply regret that's all.
     
  3. Veronico

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    Have you ever asked yourself why are you attracted to males? I'm ethero and attracted to females but I don't have high sexual feelings around them. I mean, I don't want to have sex with them just because they are females. I can talk to them as anyone else and then if we love each other then I would love to have sex with her. I don't have sexual feelings towards any women I see, just if there is love between us. It's all about masterizing your libido. Read my thread: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.p...ell-to-porn-this-is-the-only-solution.122776/

    Have you asked yourself why you are attracted to a male body parts? Is it because the guy has muscles? You can have muscles too though. Is it because they have a penis? You have a penis as well. Is it because of their faces? That's their faces, they didn't choose to have them. You could've been that guy. Remember he's male like yourself just with a different mind and body. You might just jack off to the mirror and look at yourself, if muscles, penis makes you sexually attracted to them.

    On the other side why aren't you attracted to females? They have breasts. They have sexy butts, they have juicy lips, they are good looking. I mean it is the opposite sex. Nothing of all that sexually arouse you?

    I'm ethero and I've had gay feelings as well during my adolescence but deep down I was attracted to females only. It was a gay feelings just with particular good looking guys. I destroyed that illusion and here I am, I am in no way attracted to the same sex as mine. Your case is different though, you've been attracted since you were a kid...

    If you already thought enough about all of that, and there's nothing you can do about it, then live yourself being happy and find the love you want.

    Btw, you do realise religion is a man made construct right? Why are you making your life so hard. Just be happy and live your life.
     
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  4. JoeYo

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    It goes beyond the looks(penis, muscles, butt, boobs and all that), i can't really explain why i'm attracted to men,i don't think anybody will ever know, also it's safe to say that every person in this world had some 'weird experience or feelings' during adolescence,i actually used to think that as soon as my adolescence phase end (15- 17) i will start getting attracted to women but no, from as long as i can remember ( 5 years old) to this day men always been my attraction.
     
  5. WilliamWalace

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    Hey JoeYo! Did you have moments in your life that you really enjoyed? Like traveling, spending time with friends, with family? I'm sure you don't feel the joy right now, so we all, because of porn too, but my point is this joy of life exists. It really does. So please don't think about killing yourself. There is work in front of you, a lot of work. But you can make it bro! I'm sure you can. Find out if there are any LGBT Muslim groups, it may help you a lot.
    + in my opinion the greatest joy in life is in being good to other people, helping them, sacrificing yourself to others, but that's my opinion, maybe you can try that!

    Hugs from Poland!
    William
     
  6. JoeYo

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    I'm keeping myself very busy bro, i'm currently learning to code, i'm always kind to people and animals, i daily give food to stray cats in my neighborhood. Thank you for your encouragement.
     
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  7. sparkywantsnoPMO

    sparkywantsnoPMO NoFap Moderator & Yeoman

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    NoFap policy is to respect the religious beliefs of fellow users even if they differ from your own. Please keep this in mind and have a respectful discourse.

    The Moderation Team
     
  8. Hey JoeYo, what project do you have for the future? Do you want to get married or you want to stay single beacause you feel nothing for women?(if you don't want to answer don't do it)
     
  9. JoeYo

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    I can never get married bro, there is no way in hell i will marry someone that doesn't even give me a boner lol, and it wouldn't be right to the woman either, women deserve someone who is attracted to them sexually, someone who can do them right if you understand what i mean, the only future i have now is to get a job and get my own place, that is all i'm thinking about, it's okey bro you can ask me whatever you want, you can start a private conversation if you want, good luck on your reboot.
     
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  10. As long as you avoid PMO, then it will help you. You may not be gay but going through a phase.
     
  11. Don't be ridiculous! o_O How can you be going through a phase from the age of 5, if not younger?
     
  12. JoeYo

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    Wow man you easily solved the problem, i have been fooling myself for the last 25 years, you should be psychologist and help gay people around the world lol
     
  13. Well you may have felt different when you were 5 or 4 years old. Anyway young children do not have sexual attraction developed yet.

    I do know people that used to think they were gay, but now are married to women and have children. One of the guy said he does not desire to be with another man anymore and desires his wife.
     
  14. JoeYo

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    Living in denial unfortunately has always been the case of a lot of gay men , especially in muslim countries, no wonder some of them kill themselves later in life, very sad.
     
  15. Well there are also cases of straight married men that turn gay, just as there are cases of gay men have a loving relationship of the opposite sex. Sexual preference can be fluid.

    There was a study from ( http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubm... ) found that "57% of the youths remained consistently self-identified as gay/lesbian, 18% transited from bisexual to gay/lesbian, and 15% consistently identified as bisexual over time."

    Another study of young sexual minority women found ( http://psycnet.apa.org/journals/... ) found that in a two-year period "Half of the participants changed sexual-minority identities more than once, and one third changed identities since the first interview.... Most women pursued sexual behavior consistent with their attractions, but one fourth of lesbians had sexual contact with men between the two interviews."
     
  16. JoeYo

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    They didn't "turn gay", they either were bisexual to begin with or just in denial like i said before, i didn't make this post because i was in doubt of my sexualty, i know who i am and what like, i don't know why so many guys in here having hard time accepting the fact that men can be gay simple.
     
  17. Of course if you believe you are gay then you are then. I have met a few gay muslims before.

    I have nothing more to say except I wish you well and will pray for you.
     
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  18. JoeYo

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    Thank you bro. Good luck on your reboot.
     

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