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Attitudes towards women

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by FormerFapaholic, Jul 16, 2017.

  1. FormerFapaholic

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    Then and now, before and during NoFap.

    SINCE doing NoFap for nearly 40 days (at the time of writing). The changes in me are more apparent than ever. The most notable one has been where it concerns women.

    My attitude towards women has changed from not watching porn and masturbating – and all the better for it. There’s no longer an artificial attraction to people from the opposite sex. I realise that there’s beautiful women around right in front of me. That I’m more attracted to, and get aroused by them. Not in front of a screen. The beautiful thing is that it comes naturally.

    These sick and rather twisted fantasies that stem from watching porn, has been fading away – most likely to be from the brain fog clearing up over time. I don’t have them anymore. If I do, it’s not a regular occurrence. Suggesting that these fantasies are dissolving. Looking back, it makes me feel sick on how could I waste my time watching this vile content – and the gratification I got from it.

    Since giving up porn and masturbation. I view women more as people, not sex objects, and treat them with respect. In pornography, women are being oppressed. They're being objectified, and seen and treated like toys. If anything, porn is nothing more than displaying a sick fantasy from evil and greedy ‘film’ producers. More than likely to be a sick vision realised by men as well. That’s the sad and ugly truth about porn.

    I no longer hold my head down in shame. From the mental clarity, I’ve gained from quitting porn. I’m much more confident, and can comfortably look them in the eye when seeing and speaking to them. Simply because I no longer have anything to hide. This dreadful skeleton that’s been lying around in my wardrobe, has been seen to and banished away. Good fucking riddance.

    Being able to give and maintain eye contact with people in general. More so when speaking to women has been a big plus. I'm pleased seeing that I can make people smile, or even make them laugh while I'm speaking and interacting with them.I don't want to sound like I'm blowing my own trumpet, but I get the impression that women find me more attractive. Though, this also comes from the other side effects from doing NoFap prior to that.

    Quitting porn and masturbation – PMO in other words – has not only changed my views and attitudes towards women. But also sex and relationships as well.
     
    Last edited: Jul 16, 2017
  2. MindfulAchilles

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    Yesss. This is great to hear. I completely relate to that feeling, the benefits that you find in the new found freedom make 'missing' porn so insignificant and unpromising that it helps us keep moving forward.

    Keep going, and keep reminding yourself of how much you love your new life and conscience.
     
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  3. FormerFapaholic

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    Thank you leo da king.
     
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  4. FormerFapaholic

    FormerFapaholic Fapstronaut

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    Definitely, it's clearly making a positive impact on me and my life. Long may it continue...
     
  5. Pyara31

    Pyara31 Fapstronaut

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    If it doesnt challenge you it won't change you damn well said. Congratulations sir the biggest benefit that nofap can give you is change your attitude to a more positive one. I can definitely relate to every thing that you said, just keep on moving now the real and more demanding journey is going to start now but it's always worth it
     
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  6. FormerFapaholic

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    It really does DashyRicky. Short term pain, means long term gain from doing this. I have other life goals set up to pursue and achieve. NoFap has played its part in re-inventing myself. Not only in making me a better person, but being the person I want to be.
     
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  7. Puretim

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    " It doesn't challenge you,then it won't change you.". Well said. I'd never considered that.
     
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  8. Keep up the challenge and change man !
     
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  9. vibemaker

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    Powerful words man! Thanks for sharing.

    Keep it up!

    Oh yes!
     
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