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Are your friends nudes porn

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Evansthegreat, Feb 24, 2017.

  1. Evansthegreat

    Evansthegreat Fapstronaut

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    Is it porn if my girl friend sends me nudes?

    I caught myself looking at them today and wondered if this a relapse or not. I don't think so because she's a "real" person and it's more than sex with her.

    Could use some opinions on this.
     
  2. ILoathePwife

    ILoathePwife Fapstronaut

    Is it possible that looking at these could trigger you to relapse? (My answer would be, yes, but you need to answer for yourself.)
    Is it worth it, looking at her photos, to possibly relapse? (I would think, no, but again, you need to answer for yourself.)
    Is looking at the photos adding positively to your reboot and recovery in any way?

    I think that the very fact that you wondered about it and posted here means you are thinking it's probably not a good idea. I don't know how long you have been rebooting but I would guess you are a new member just starting from your points? You need to give yourself time to heal. Wait it out. Do the work.
     
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  3. Headspace

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    ...and may be talk about it with your girlfriend at some point. To make sure she doesn't misunderstand.
     
  4. ILoathePwife

    ILoathePwife Fapstronaut

    Yes, I highly recommend you are open with her about your addiction and reboot.
     
  5. Evansthegreat

    Evansthegreat Fapstronaut

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    Yeah I'm 64 days i don't think I will lead to me watching straight up porn. PMO is easier for me lately it's just MO. The fear of ED is scary enough for me
     
  6. Evansthegreat

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    She know she's happy that started this and has been very supportive.
     
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  7. PostiveChange1974

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    So they can be a relapse. It depends on what issue you were having before you started the NoFap reboot.

    If you're issue was you felt loss of impulse control, meaning you were fapping more often than you thought you should, and wanted to slow down. (looking at her pics and fapping is a relapse) (looking at her pics and not fapping isn't)

    If you're issue was that you had sensitivity issues, and were on a reboot because you wanted to see if you body healed to allow you to be 'less or more' sensitive in real sex.... (looking at her pics and staring is a bit of a relapse, but depends on how long you stared. Was it a quick glance, and after a minute you shook out of it? Or was it starting and chasing through more and more pics for several minutes and possibly an hour) Quick glances and not chasing isn't a relapse. Chasing and staring for long periods is.

    If your issue was that you wanted to commit more fully to your relationship, and only see her. (Buddy, you got not problem looking at her pics) It's actually sweet, and respectful. Just be careful that it doesn't turn into the other things we mentioned, because if you let it, staring at her pics can become a similar thing as PMO.

    Do you know what you were trying to solve when you began your reboot?
     
  8. Evansthegreat

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    Trying to see if was addicted to porn or masterbation I've discovered it was doing both when I get bored or in the mood kinda sad when I write out
     
  9. PostiveChange1974

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    Do you get to spend a good amount of time with your GF? Or are you and her doing a distance relationship?

    If you are doing a distance relationship, there is a danger in using the pics. It can allow you to create a false idea of who she is because you don't actually get to spend time together. If so, you should respect the photos, and treasure them, but don't look at them often.

    If you get to see each other a lot through out the week, and she sent them to be playful and intimate with you when you where not together, then you can look all you want. The real her is there with you often so there is no risk of creating false ideas. The pics simply serve as a reminder of what you have next to you.
     
  10. Will Mars

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    I don't think its relapse it's something between two people to increase attraction for each other, wrong is misuse of that stuff for example showing it off to others like see I'm so cool chics send me nudes or jerking off to it always and not doing it with her. Fine in anticipation I knocked one out too in past of a girl dated but that was one and done type deal. Just don't make a habit to constantly look at it to ruin your concentration. Authentically ask for sex if too turned on by the pic.
     

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