Anyone who lost their virginity in their 30s: how did you do it?

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  1. Bin Yao

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    I can not believe it
     
  2. believe it! :p
     
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  3. I'm like that now when I'm asked my age!
     
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  4. Rav70

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    Older women! Not fossils, but don't put a number on a prospective partner.
    My boyfriend is 32 and I'm 45. Both love each other more than anything.
    We've been out there and trust me, there's some major assholes in the dating pool.
     
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  5. abra

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    I lost mine at 23, until there it was not too heavy a burden but then I wanted things to change. I started to look for advice for seduction on the internet and stopped porn, then met one in a party.

    I think the first time is usually one of the worst. You're totally inexperienced, plus have some pressure, how could it be else? I don't say it will be bad, mine was fair.
    But don't expect miracles, so remove expectations for the first time, do it and then try to improve, and most important to find connections with girls.

    I have not tried hookers, it helped a friend but i think it can be dangerous for you own self esteem or construction of sexual life.
    +1 for honesty.
     
  6. cybermonk

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    I'm a 39-year-old virgin.

    Those of you who can't imagine still being a virgin at this age, well, the older you get the less of an issue it becomes. You sort of make peace with it. If you feel ashamed about being a virgin and don't want anyone to know, guess what? No one can know unless you tell them. It's not like someone can tell that you're a virgin by inspecting your penis, unlike a girl where you can tell if she's a virgin by inspecting her hymen, but even that isn't a reliable test because a girl can rupture her hymen by doing something simple like riding a bicycle.

    An advantage of being a virgin at an older age is that you can get away with the "I haven't done it in a long time" excuse. If I'm too anxious and nervous when I finally get around to having sex, I can just say that I'm like that because I haven't been with a woman in a long time. If you're in your mid 20s say you haven't done it since you were 15 or something. I think it's perfectly normal to feel anxious about sex if you haven't done it in 10-20 years. If the girl starts asking too many questions about your first time, tell her you were drunk and don't remember much of it. That should shut her up.

    Like I said, the older you get the less of an issue it becomes, and you realize that there are more important things in life than losing your virginity, like doing good deeds and striving to improve every area of your life to be the best person you can be. The world is full of horrible and evil people who commit the most vile and despicable acts, do you think the fact that they lost their virginity a long time ago makes them better than you?
     
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  7. himmelstoss

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    What if I don't want to make peace with it? Sometimes I feel like I never had a chance, never had the information I needed until it was too late.
     
  8. Rav70

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    I'm a 45 female and my life is far from almost done. I am loving my 40s! Confident, sexy and fit, I have curves I never had in my 20s. My sex life is off the charts. In 5 weeks I've had sex everyday but 3 days. How many of you 20 year olds can say that?! Lol

    To all you young guys scared stiff to be with a woman, think outside the box. Maybe find someone 10 years older than you with an open mind and willing to show you the ropes. ;)
     
  9. himmelstoss

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    I was already willing to do that but how do I know they wont think it's weird?
     
  10. Rav70

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    Well, there's women out there who can have the same interests as younger guys.
    My bf is 32. We met from an online game. We like the same music, love to go kayaking and absolutely adore each other's company. We are best friends.
    Neither one of us thought it was "weird"
     
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  11. Paulie

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    I am a virgin at a few months of being 49 years old. I am proud to be a virgin and plan to remain a virgin until the day I die. In case you are wondering I am not unattractive, I remained a virgin in the past because I preferred masturbation and porn to going out and meeting a real person. I like the simplicity of life as a single person and I don't need to have sex to feel good about myself, or for the simple fact of saying that I have done it. I am proud to be a virgin and will gladly tell anyone that I am one. I just choose to stay single and celibate , to be 100% sexually pure, no PMO ever again. This lifestyle is not for every one. The only person putting pressure on you to have sex is you, Life is just as good without sex, perhaps even a lot more meaningful.
     
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  12. Zinc

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    You crazy.

     
  13. Rav70

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    I'm not saying this to be a smart ass but how can you say that if you've never had it?
     
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  14. himmelstoss

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    I know, it sounds like coping mechanism for men who feel like they got tossed aside
     
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  15. Rav70

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    Well sorry if I offended you. Secondly women are having children in their fourties everyday.
    Also, I was not specifically speaking finding someone to have children with more someone you could have a sexual relationship with and if it became more serious then go from there.
    My boyfriend has no children and that was a concern of mine because I was 44 when we met. He said let's not worry about that now and we didn't.
    14 months later we are planning on getting married and actively trying to make a baby.
    He said if we do awesome but if it doesn't happen. He's okay with that too. I make him happy and that is more important.
    I also have an 11 year old whose father died when he was 6. My boyfriend has bonded with him and enjoys being a father figure to him.
    When you look at where he was before we met, lonely, depressed, anxious and doing p and m daily... Being with someone who brings him joy and unconditional love on a daily basis... Age is a non-factor to him.
     
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  16. Red Eagle

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    I think it's quite stupid to rule out older women because of wanting to start a family. Not many men want to have a family in their early 20's and even if they want to have one what's the problem with the woman being older unless she is like 20+ years older. My mom was 15 years older than my dad. Age was not a problem but they still broke up which had to do with my father's non commitment.
    I'm a 22 year old virgin. The virgin title doesn't concern me that much. It's just a word. My fear is that it will stay that way and I will not experience intimacy. I know I am capable of having a gf. It's just very difficult to find someone I feel emotionally attracted to. I found one such woman last year and it took all my courage to ask her out. She didn't even talk to me the next day which was not a pleasant experience but I'm still glad I did it. Especially because I could prove myself that I have the courage to approach women.
     
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  17. Rav70

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    That does take courage asking someone out. Obviously that girl wasn't someone you'd want to be with anyways considering her actions after that.
    Hope one day you ask someone out and they are happy you did so!
     
  18. himmelstoss

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    I don't get it. Why would anyone want to provide for the same women who wouldn't give them a second look when they were struggling? I just want FWBs now but I'm not sure who's actually in my league
     
  19. Paulie

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    That's why I used the word possibly rather than stating an absolute fact.
     
  20. Paulie

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    No I don't miss having a relationship.
     

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