Anyone relate?

Yes, absolutely! For most of my life I have found it tough to feel like I am forming good relationships with others. I am very good socially and find it easy to strike up conversations with others. I have a good set of friends and a long term partner, but I still sometimes feel like I don't "connect" with people. I consider myself an introvert and feel most at home on my own. It doesn't mean I don't like being around others. It just means when I'm around others for a long time I feel drained and the need to have some time to recuperate alone.

Especially in my adult years. After having unfavorable friendships and a neglectful parent, maybe this has affected me. I must admit that I connect better with others when I have abstained from PMO. Could porn have contributed to some of these feelings? Maybe, but i don't blame it, as time travel is not an option, I will never be able to find out.

I'm sure our feelings are totally normal. If you feel it is affecting you, see a therapist. I hope you are able to overcome these feelings and find the connections with others you are looking for.

 

Why don't you try to reconnect with the old circle of friends. Join a club or play team sports. I love having a close group of friends from my team that I can contact and hang out with.

 

Not to worry though, cause god chose that path for you, right?

 

Haha! You're a barrel of laughs.

 

Your name is "Praying for ascension". Why bother praying for god to help you to ascend? You said yourself that god has already chosen for you to be in your current situation. God doesn't make mistakes does he? No need to pray then is there?

 

In general you should quit trying to relate to people when it comes to loneliness. It's affirmation seeking in an negative sense, and you're more likely to dwell on that.

Think of NoFap as an opportunity for 'ascension.' That it will allow you better understand yourself mentally and physically, and how you should work to improve yourself.

 

You’re honestly telling him to stop trying to connect with people? That’s one of our most basic human needs. In fact a lot of deep thinkers, philanthropists and scientists now think that social interaction is more important than food. We are social creatures.

 

I had a group seminar regarding this and it came down to the point that if you are feeling lonely in your social group or family it is because you are not being authentic in what you say. For example, if someone asks you how are you and your reply is usually "fine" when you actually feel like shit then, you are indeed socializing but you are being inauthentic with yourself in others in terms of not really opening up. I'm slowly learning this, because I too sometimes feel like I can't connect with other people, I have to remind myself to be as open as possible.

 

can relate

 

It’s interesting that you brought this point up because I have gone through bad times in my life and only since I have started being totally honest and saying however feel to people, have I noticed change x

 

Yes.