Anybody mask loneliness with humour?

I feel ya, man.
I tell lame dad jokes to cover up the fact that I want to throw myself over a cliff.

 

DEAD

 

I wish

 

Friends are a distractions. If you're putting on a mask to appease anyone in your life (outside of an employer or professor), you're selling yourself short.

 

humour is humour, loneliness is loneliness. I dont know

 

I like to call it the Chandler Effect
Altough Psychology probably has a better name for it

 

Are you referring to Chandler from Friends?

 

Yep

 

Naah, life's already laughing at me.

 

Dude I feel the SAME EXACT way

 

I can relate man. I'm generally known for being that one quiet kid. I only have 1 or 2 people whom I consider close friends. "Awkwardness", isolation, guilt, loneliness, and loss of social skills have all been side effects for me.

 

Whoa! Well at least start telling not so lame jokes there pal!

 

Many a true word is spoken in jest.

So, here's my lame dad joke (my boy found it very funny)....What do you call a bunch on avo's rolling down a mountain? An avolanche.

 

My fellow kindred spirit I know exactly how you feel. Humour at times comes from a really dark place. Robin Williams even had his own demons and he was (atleast for me) one of the funniest humans to have graced this earth. I too feel the constant need to laugh and make other's smile. Is it a healthy character trait? I don't know. Does that make you a bad person, no! Hopefully through this life change you will learn more about yourself and maybe some acceptance.

 

My life in a nutshell.

 

Humor is the main way that I hide from people and from myself. Hiding in plain sight as they say. But it's draining. I yearn for true connection with people, but I'm also starving for attention from my own self. So that's where pmo comes in along with isolating and eating junk food, watching netflix and going to the movies. I live in a hidden world but I have found that the more I step out of that as uncomfortable as it is, the better I feel in the long run. Of course breaking through that comfort zone is not always as easy as it sounds. Have you considered journaling your authentic thoughts and feelings on different things? That will give you a start on getting in tune with your genuine self and to start finding what you really think and feel on things. It will also provide relief from that feeling of isolation.

 

My humor gets me attention from girls sometimes. So maybe the coping is actually a weapon against loneliness

 

Do you find you are rejecting yourself internally at all with your humor?