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Any advices for someone unexperienced?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by hanlee97, Jul 12, 2017.

  1. hanlee97

    hanlee97 New Fapstronaut

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    Hello, i'm an 20 yo virgin that haven't a girlfriend yet.
    I really want a relationship, but everytime i mess it up. I'm not best looking and i try to have a good attitude, but i just can't because everytime i get rejected..
    Any advices?
     
  2. ThaDodger

    ThaDodger Fapstronaut

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    Do sport. Dress up. Have fun (literally that's most important).
     
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  3. Welcome to this community @hanlee97. I advise you to concentrate on sorting out your addiction to masturbating to other people having sex. It is very damaging to any future relationships you have. Focus on that. Abstain from porn, masturbation and orgasm (PMO) for a few months and then you will be ready to start looking for a girlfriend.
     
  4. kingpietro

    kingpietro Fapstronaut

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    It isn't the the most most handsome that gets the woman its the guy who thinxs he is the most handsome guy

    its all about confidence if you don't love you'rself a woman won't love you.

    my advise get a life start a passion hobby : sport, reading books.
    Socialize get new friends and become happy
     
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  5. ThaDodger

    ThaDodger Fapstronaut

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    Read 'No more Mr Nice Guy', 'Power of Now' and 'The Game'. Watch RSDTyler. Meditate.
     
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  6. Cyan

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    I endorse this. Especially "No more mr. nice guy" helped me a lot and contains a lot of helpful advice for men to better themselves and become productive social members of society! It is not just important that you get a girlfriend, it is important that you can lead a healthy relationship with her, knowing how to do that will give you extra confidence when searching for one and will help you getting one because you will naturaly be more attractive.
     
  7. TheBigBadWolf

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    No worries man! Here are 5 tips I can give you that you could start doing right now in order to improve your game:
    1- Realize it is all a numbers game - There are BILLIONS of girls out there and there is not just one but a lot of girls who would probably like you. You have to put yourself out there and go for what you want with confidence. You will get rejected but you have to get that it isn't personal, she just isn't into you. You will find the right type of girl believe me.
    2- Work on yourself - If you aren't looking in the mirror and smiling at yourself every morning, why not? Ask yourself that and once you figure out why fix it. If it's how you look then work on your hygiene, get a fitting haircut for you, and workout to at least stay fit. You have to develop a certain level of joy and pride in how you look that way you can truly feel confident on your exterior. However realize that confidence is an inner trait rather than outer though being able to look in the mirror and not feel bad about yourself will help a lot.
    3- Confidence is key - Anyone who is good with women has a high level of confidence in who they are. Do you have a passion? A Dream? Do you like who you are? How you act? What you say? What you don't say? You have to develop confidence in yourself. One good way at starting at this is to adapt your mindset to one of a successful person's. That doesn't mean try to be someone else but learn from someone who is Confident in themselves. Keep approaching women and you will get better at it overtime even if you get rejected. Honestly if you gain this certain swagger and class about yourself the rest will fall into place almost naturally. Confidence is literally the key!
    4- Charisma on demand - Charisma is a powerful tool not just for leaders and politicians. It is very very useful when it comes to social interactions. Especially with women! You will be better at talking, flirting, and persuading. It is not easy to master but powerful once you get good at it.
    5- Apply the above information - What good is all of this if you don't actually start doing it. You got this dude! I double dog dare you to be a better version of yourself everyday until you die starting now.

    -TheBigBadWolf
     
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  8. The Wrestler

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    Love yourself. Without this any relationship you might have will ultimately fail. Take the time and put in the work to learn to like yourself.

    What makes you in a rush to get a girlfriend, anyhow? My first girlfriend was at 29, and I'm kind of glad for it, because she is amazing, and I really was not ready for it before then.
     

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