Am I wasting my time (and money) dating?

Same here bro lol I always thought that hooking up without commitments is the way to go because you see everybody else do it but that's not the case. The times I have had a random
Hook up it felt awkward and not to mention someone always ends up hurt in the process whether it be me getting attached due to lack of experience or me realizing I don't really like this girl outside of hooking up and she gets attached and needy. So in my experience hook ups are not optimal for me I want a connection deeper.

 

Yeah, exactly, one of the two gets hurt eventually.

 

This is wisdom friends. This man speak truth. I can relate very much to this.

 

My advice:

1. Decide what you want. Stop being wishy-washy, because that's what you'll attract back. Do you want to hookup because you don't want to miss an opportunity? Or do you want long-term emotional and sexual commitment? If you want the latter, start acting like that.
2. Tell people what you're looking for, before you go on a date. Something sweet and concise such as "Looking for the ying to my yang" or whatever. Something funny yet obvious. That you are looking for a real connection, but you're in no hurry but just want to focus on getting to know people and see how it goes.
3. Start acting like you already have what you want. Yes, you have urges. Yes, you have needs. We all do. But if you want to find wifey material, start acting like husband material. Meaning stop thinking with your dick first and start getting to know the woman, her values, her personalities and see if she matches what you want.
4. Be the partner you want to attract: so you want a woman who is compassionate, empathetic, kind, loving, understanding, mature, emotionally available, faithful, exclusive - start embodying those traits yourself. You'll attract people who correspond to your own level. Don't expect the "perfect" partner if you're not "perfect" yourself.
5. Don't stick your dick in her too soon. Even though you're both all hot and bothered, don't stick it in! WAIT! Get to know each other first, and TELL HER that you want to get to know her. Don't just assume she knows what you're thinking, but communicate to her, that you find her very attractive and sexy and blah blah, but that you want to make sure you establish a secure connection first. She will respect you without worrying about you not finding her attractive. Tell her this and live up to it, and it will heighten her attraction to you times million. Trust me. Women want to feel they mean more to you than instant gratification. You'll get plenty of poon later, don't worry.
6. Same level of investment - HIGH enthusiasm! Meaning: be CONSISTENT with your attention. No "playing hard to get" crap. No "push / pull" bullshit. Just mirror her frequency of communication, but ALWAYS ALWAYS AAAALWAAAYS respond with HIGH enthusiasm. So if you only text once a day, ALWAYS text something cheerful and enthusiastic back. Same level of investment - HIGH enthusiasm. I can't stress this enough. NEVER EVER dobbelt text.
7. Date suggestions: go for a walk. Find a cheap cafe and have coffee. Go to a free art thing or museum or interactive whatever. Sit outside somewhere nice and chat or play a board game. Just hang out and get to know each other.