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Am I ready for a relationship?

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by KillMyDarlings, Jul 5, 2017.

  1. Jul 5, 2017 #1
    KillMyDarlings

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    Every time I meet a woman who possess a multitude of qualities that are appealing, I try hard. I get on my best behaviour. I try to balance masculinity with my caring side, not being a pushover, but also being the main driving force behind decisions. I work my ASS off to keep her in my life, at the same time assessing her good/bad qualities.

    Although I've only had a few REAL relationships with substance, it seems to be that in the times of "loneliness" that I learn the most about myself and what I need to do.

    I'm TRYING to stay PMO free! I want to improve my sex life (delayed ejaculation/desensitivity/inability to O from BJ)! I'm also trying to pay bills, finish my studies and pursue my dreams!

    Time and time again over the past few years, I seem to be playing catch up.......I meet someone I like, and THEN I try to stop Porn.

    I got diagnosed with an existential crisis by someone who has dedicated most of their life to helping others with mental illness.

    Will I feel more complete when the rest of my life is in order over that of meeting "the one"?

    I feel much more alone when I can't finish with someone I want to connect with on a sexual level. I understand that connecting mentally is a much stronger sensation, but it can create such a wide distance between a man and woman if only one can climax.

    It's so hard to judge.
     
    KillMyDarlings, Jul 5, 2017
    KillMyDarlings, Jul 5, 2017
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  2. Jul 5, 2017 #2
    jest

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    My friend, you're not at your strongest point yet. Are you ready for a relationship? Ask instead if you are ready to become better and heal yourself first.

    You don't need an excuse, you don't need a girl to motivate you to quit PMO. If you believe that a climax is necessary to connect with a woman on a deeper level then you will also attract women who believe the exact same thing.

    Work on yourself, discipline yourself and when you're truly ready you WILL know you're ready. If you're unsure right now, it simply means you don't believe you're ready and you will never be ready if you doubt yourself.
     
    jest, Jul 5, 2017
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  3. Jul 5, 2017 #3
    Scott88

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    Hey bud!

    There's more to bonding than just climaxing, figure out what you feel you need rather than what you think you need. For example, if talking about how you feel with a girl gets you closer to her then keep involving your feelings and communicate! Figure yourself out first, be confident in what you're looking for and the rest will fall into place. Worked for me!
     
    Scott88, Jul 5, 2017
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  4. Jul 5, 2017 #4
    The Wrestler

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    The caring side is the masculine side
    Rookie mistake, judging. Has a tendency to drive people away.
    Why is it one or the other? Why not both?
    Read this again...did you answer your own question?
    Again, what makes it one or the other? In my experience it really can be both, and I mean that for both connection/sensation and for climaxing...man, sex is best in a long term committed relationship. It's all that extra practice and communication!
     
    The Wrestler, Jul 5, 2017
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  5. Jul 7, 2017 #5
    KillMyDarlings

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    I agree, once you really let down your wall and connect on a mental level with another person, the sky is the limit.

    The sex is the best when it's two sided.
     
    KillMyDarlings, Jul 7, 2017
    KillMyDarlings, Jul 7, 2017
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