Am I Bisexual or Heteroflexible (mostly straight)or Straight?

wtf is happening we're supposed to help to each other right ?

 

thoughts influence action change your thoughts you will change M Ali his affirmation i am the greatest

 

I’m learning to let go of my hocd. I’ve never wanted to be in a relationship with a man...nor have I even wanted to kiss one. I think porn has led me to admire the “part” of the male itself.

If I’m bi then I’m bi. I really don’t care and I think that when we except that may be a possibility as well as go through a full reboot...only then will we find out where we are at.

I no longer care. All I know is I’m married to a wonderful woman who I will NEVER cheat on with a male or female. Also, the plan is to never watch porn again or orgasm without my wife present anyway. So....what’s the worry?

 

What the hell is wrong with you TC? You pretty much answered your own question, but how the hell does someone become this fucking confused? If you have zero desire for men, why mess with your own head like this?

 

This sounds like the attitude I need to tell myself. For years I've been in denial. Then I've convinced myself that I'm gay, but married to a woman. Now I'm beginning to think that due to 24 years of PMO (including mainly gay porn) I'm really not in a position to judge what I am. Hopefully, when the dust settles, I'll have a better idea.
But what you've said, hits the mark for me. Ultimately, I have no intention of leaving or cheating on my wife, so what I identify as should become less of an issue.

 

You, my friend, are in what’s called intrusive thought patterns. It’s a type of ocd thinking commonly based around pedophilia, murder or homosexual thoughts. You have a thought, you want it to go away, it won’t, so therefore it must be true, but you want it to go away, and the harder you try to make it go away the more it sticks, and then you start to get anxious about it and the more you do thisbthe more you believe it must be tru and the more anxious you become.

Correct?

First step is to stop all Porn for ever, and stop all MO until you’re ready to reintroduce it into your life. This alone will start to balance out all of those fears and one day you might wake up and realize you haven’t thought about gay vs straight. In some time.

I also recommend therapy and other healthy things to do for sobriety such as journaling, 12 step program SAA, talking daily about your feelings with people, exercise etc...

There’s loads more detail that I did which we can talk about if you like. Remember you’re thoughts aren’t you! And we can’t stop thoughts from happening, but if we try to fight them they get stronger. And PMO reinforces them.

 

Interesting point on 'only on the internet'. If I saw some of the girls I've seen in pornography in real life, I probably wouldn't find them attractive as they'd be variously too young, too surgically enhanced, too muscular etc.

 

On the disagreement that has come up on this thread, I would like to point out that 15 years ago I wouldn't tolerate slapping women in pornography and would immediately turn it off. In time, although I never approved of it, I began to continue watching, so I was at least desensitized.