Am I alone in the world with this fetisch (warning triggers)

I agree, I think labels make everything worse. It be nice to not have to worry about them and just like what we like, cause we are all different and unique.

 

Someone told me something important about labels.
“When you try to define yourself, especially by your vice or vices, you are doing yourself real damage because who you are is so much more than that. Work to find that true self and let the labels go. They do you no good.”

 

I dont think theres anything wrong with a guy liking the way a penis looks. They come in all shapes and sizes, so they can be interesting to analyze. Some guys have good looking dicks and it's hard to not like that.

 

You're bisexual bro. You like women by nature just like most men do, and you should be perfectly comfortably with that part of your sexuality. But it also seems porn has triggered your interest in men and cocks, maybe that's just another part of your sexuality you haven't discovered bro. So yes, you are bi, broski.

 

So gynxi, making any progress? How is it going?

 

Totally agree. Sex is not the most important part who we are, it’s just the part we give too much attention to.

 

PUBG , many things; or Far Cry.

 

OMG, I totally have that too! But it didn't start in my teens. I'm not exactly sure when it started, probably just emerged gradually. But over the past couple of years, I've definitely noticed a persistent interest in penises. Not dudes, though. And I have zero interest in seeing two guys together (unless it's like a close-up of sword fighting).
But here's an important detail that sets me apart from most people responding to this. I've tried hooking up with men. Repeatedly. I come from a really socially progressive background, and so I don't have the same ingrained stigma about homosexuality that most people in the world today have. In my early 20's I decided I wanted to be bisexual. It fit with my political ideology, I wanted to be part of the LGBTQ community (although it didn't have that many letters back then), and I figured it would greatly increase the number of people I could date. So I started telling people I was Bi. I was attending a liberal arts college at the time, emphasis on liberal, and there were plenty of openly gay students to experiment with. Over the next 4 years, I experimented with 6 different guys. In each case, we made it to him trying to give me oral for a while, and me just not responding at all. Zero arousal. So finally I accepted that I'm straight, and that's not something I have control over. Just like all the gay guys I know who tried repeatedly to have sex with women, and finally accepted that's just not who they are.

So, when I say that I too like looking at dicks but am not not gay or bi, I feel like I have some rational basis besides just being latently homophobic. Still, the best advice is to reboot, and then see if you still want to hook up with men. If you do, then maybe you're bi - accepting that will decrease the guilt you feel. But maybe that fetish will disappear once you stop spending so much time looking at dicks.

 

If you stop watching porn, overtime lots of stuff changes. It’s actually remarkable how much porn affects our brains. After being sober from porn for 9 months I have literally transformed. My sexual desires and fantasies aren’t anything like what they were.

Some fetishes are old and run deep, so they are taking longer to disappear, but loads of various fetishes have left me and I don’t think about them often.

Teens and gay are two fetishes that are still with me. Like you I know I’m 100% straight, but something about gay stuff is a huge fetish for me. I’ve traced it back to a few situations in my early life, but the reason isn’t as important as what I do to work through it.

Through lots of therapeutic work I’m seeing these long-standing fetishes slowly start to drift away.

It’s kinda funny, my current issues are with anxiety and self-hatred and very rarely related to sex/porn issues. The longer I’m sober and chase down the causes of my PMO addiction the further Away from porn I seem to get. Cuz after all PMO is just our effective medication to the real emotional problems.