Almost 60 days free of porn, my story

You can do it. Your story will inspire someone in an even worse place than you,

 

Thanks a lot for sharing, it's really a positive story
I wish you all the best in your life

 

Very inspiring story! Thank you for sharing! I have also had trouble even realising that i was an addict, i saw this in movies and i knew other boys were doing it so i wasn't too worried. Also when i tried to quit to see if i was addicted i remember telling myself that this is stupid and im not addicted, when i actually was, our minds have good ways of tricking us... Also i recently got the idea that maybe doing PMO even when you don't feel like it might be a good solution, to make yourself sick of it, but thanks to you i realised that that's a stupid idea

 

Same with me, i became distant towards my closest friends and didn't know why, now it's clear...

 

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All I want to know is it you're still a feminist?! haha good shit man keep it up.

 

It’s a great example of how porn can create so much confusion for a person. On the one hand I’ve viewed and enjoyed watching porn, yet on the other I respect women (something that porn does not - well that’s something I believe)
Those two strong emotions are worlds apart. Good for you Weddingnails for being involved with a feminist cause. It may make it harder for you to swallow having viewed porn, but in the long run it will be easier for you to reflect on what it is you want to achieve. You said all that in your introduction, although I must admit I was surprised to read you are involved with feminism.

 

Inspiring read. I too have been watching porn for a long time. Not as long as you but too long. Masterbating everyday excessively. I suffer badly from anxiety and depression which usually comes and goes. I am currently going through a bad patch atm so thought it was a good time to stop pmo. I too have bad intrusive thoughts about sex and family members. Its the worst thing I have ever expiernced and comes at the most inapropriate times. Reading your story has given me faith I can overcome this and feel normal again.

 

I don't buy into the idea that watching porn is sexist. If I watch gay porn am I demonising men? I think it is bullshit. Look, sex is a part of men and women. Women are beautiful to straight men in a way men will never be. I don't think it should feel wrong. It is two people having sex, two people who most often enjoy it and get paid to do it, who put it out there for you to see and it is somehow wrong for you to see it? Isn't that what we all want? To do what we love and get paid doing it?

To me, the problem with porn is like with everything; abusing it. Too much of it will fuck you up, like too much cocaine, too much water, too much sunlight or too much sex?

We are now in a position where we must abstain from it, but if we hadn't overdone it we would have been fine.

 

Porn demeans anyone who is involved with it, including the people who make the money from it. There's a reason why people watch it in secret.

 

That is subjective. You think it is demeaning to people in it. I don't. The pornstars generally don't. Churches generally do.

Porn being demeaning is an idea, not a reality. A reality is physic's, gravity. It is absolutely true. Porn being demeaning is an idea you believe in. I don't.

 

Great story man . I can relate to you in the way how you started porn because you might have been kinda lonely. I'm an only child, and I usually am left alone, where I am greatly tempted.

 

Of course you can believe whatever you want. However, I do think it's inconsiderate to say things in this community that could weaken someone into relapse. If you aren't going through hell with a porn addiction, that's great for you but this community has people who are in danger of destroying their lives and are here seeking help. Everywhere else they turn is full of triggers. Their life isn't your life regardless of how you wish to think.

Anyway, you might look up the statistics on sex slavery and porn. While there are professional porn actors, a lot of what is being produced in Eastern and now Western Europe is made by captives who are often forced into heroin addiction to keep them dependent on their captives. Haven't you heard of the sex grooming gangs in the UK? How do you think they groom those kids? That certainly degrades people. How about your sister or brother put into that position?

I won't argue further on this. Please just try not to weaken people who are here for support.

 

Bro wtf. It didn't take you long to jump on the moral high ground. Who the fuck are you to be so moral and arrogant? You don't know what my addiction is, you don't know what I've gone through.

You've made quite the jump from porn being demeaning to triggers. By that logic, we shouldn't use the words; "porn", "sex" "masturbation" or even "triggers"

and my life isn't your life regardless of how you wish to think. You are quite the bundle of contradictions.

Then you go on to talk about sex slavery and relate it to the previous discussion. Of course, no one thinks sex slavery is okay, every industry has the dark side of it and it is fucking shit, and we should do more to minimise it, but fuck me, bro, you have your mind made up and you have no interest in discussing the point. You're only interested in giving your point of view.

"I won't argue further on this" - smh

Anyway good luck to you on PMO and to everyone else. Stick it out, lads.